Who has influenced your sah/woh

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Who has influenced your sah/woh
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Thu, 02-09-2006 - 2:39pm

opinion to DIFFER. What I mean is--is there anyone on this board or in real life whose opinion/reasoning/debating/facts started to make your thinking more to the middle? As in if you thought sah or woh was best & then after some discussion/thought, you began to think that whatever is best for each family--really there is no one best way, etc.

We just really needed a new thread here!!!!!!!!

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Registered: 01-18-2006
Wed, 02-15-2006 - 12:24pm
Thanks for the recap. Just because that it what I said doesn't mean I stand around with a clipboard ranking things. I just had a hot dog. I didn't rank whether it was better on the grill or in the microwave.

 

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Registered: 01-18-2006
Wed, 02-15-2006 - 12:25pm
Sure I have multiple times. Doesn't mean you have to agree. I said the same thing about you. You haven't proved to me that I am wrong by a longshot.

 

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Registered: 01-18-2006
Wed, 02-15-2006 - 12:29pm

Again so boring.

***You really need to make up your mind. If your opinion is that everything that is different has a better or worse, than everything in your life has a better or worse....or your opinion is incorrect.***

I did make up my mind. Everything is better or worse. Still stand by that.

*** No, they just do things differently as they are different children. I don't compare them against each other to determine which is better at something or worse.***

I don't compare my children either. You asked me a question and I answered it. Doesn't mean I sit around everyday deciding who is doing what better. That would be very time consuming. The reason they do things differently is partially because one might be better at it than another. Again doesn't make that a bad thing.

***As you keep saying, everything that is different has a better or worse and that everything is ranked. We keep telling you different, glad you finally see the point.***

Everything is better or worse. I still stand by that. Again doesn't make it bad. I thought we went over this already. What point?

 

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Wed, 02-15-2006 - 12:30pm
Yes I am standing behind every single word. Doesn't mean that I stand around ranking things. I don't have the time nor do I care what is better or worse. Doesn't really matter. It just is.

 

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Registered: 01-13-2006
Wed, 02-15-2006 - 12:31pm
my "baby" sleeps from 0-2 hours a day and there is no way i could get all the things that need to be done in a day done in that time. if i did nothing but entertain him all day i would have several hours of work to do at night which would defeat one of the pluses to our family for having me sah - half the time we are not even home at night. by no stretch of the imagination do i ignore my children, however i do not jump everytime they say boo. just as i will not spend my whole day coloring and playing trains - i dont have the time and i just dont enjoy those activities enough to spend 8 hours doing them.
Jennie
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Wed, 02-15-2006 - 12:32pm
I disagree. I don't go into marriage or having children being worried about gloom and doom. However I made sure before I thought about getting married and having children that I could support myself and do what needed to be done. We do prepare for a death. We do carry insurance. However I just don't think preparing for a possible divorce from day 1 is very healthy.

 

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Registered: 01-18-2006
Wed, 02-15-2006 - 12:34pm

Certainly..

http://www.co.lancaster.pa.us/courts/cwp/view.asp?a=470&Q=262209#SUPPORT

Support for a dependent spouse is called either spousal support, if the parties are married and no divorce action has been filed, or alimony pendente lite, if the dependent spouse is asking for support in connection with a divorce. A dependent spouse is one who proves that he or she lacks the ability to earn enough income because of lack of skills, lack of education, ill-health, or has the responsibility of taking care of young children. The dependent spouse is entitled to support at a level equal to the standard of living the family had during the marriage, if the other spouse's finances are sufficient.




Edited 2/15/2006 12:36 pm ET by snoopyme

 

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Wed, 02-15-2006 - 12:35pm

"Everything is better or worse."

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Wed, 02-15-2006 - 12:36pm
No it isn't. Just because thing are better or worse doesn't mean you compare things. DO you stand around all day watching your children and say WOW they are different?

 

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Wed, 02-15-2006 - 12:37pm
I think there's nothing at all unhealthy about being prepared to support oneself in the event of divorce from day 1 of the marriage.

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