Who has influenced your sah/woh
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Who has influenced your sah/woh
| Thu, 02-09-2006 - 2:39pm |
opinion to DIFFER. What I mean is--is there anyone on this board or in real life whose opinion/reasoning/debating/facts started to make your thinking more to the middle? As in if you thought sah or woh was best & then after some discussion/thought, you began to think that whatever is best for each family--really there is no one best way, etc.
We just really needed a new thread here!!!!!!!!


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Nope, I'm a WOHM, I'm not with them all day most days.
But yes, I do frequently remark on how different they are (probably because they are the same gender and fairly close in age).
Edited to add: are you saying that people and things are objectively better or worse than other people and things, whether or not we choose to do the comparison?
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Jennie
"Why do you keep assuming that a sah woman is not self-sufficient?"
Yes :)
"And what study (please give me the link if one exists) could ever prove that sah is bad for children?"
Abusive SAH parents perhaps. BTW, I'm waiting for a link to such a study (you know one without extenuating circumstances such as abusive parenting) as well.
"My children are my responsibility. I have always been a pretty strong woman. I have never had a man walk all over me. MY mother was very forward thinking for her age and sah and woh when I was older. There is no way you are going to convince me that in order for my children to do well in life I need to work when they are young."
Hear hear!!!
"What could a daycare center, nanny, othercare provider do for my children that I cannot do? What benefit would it have been for them at 8 weeks old or even at 3?"
Nothing that I can think of.
"I think daycare is fine for children. But, it is not necessary for a child's development."
Indeed it is not.
"Sah in itself (I am not talking financial) is never harmful unless the mother is abusive."
I agree :) But I think "generally not" is probably more appropriate than "never".
"And you keep talking about logic. Logic tells me that I am my children's mother. I find nothing odd about the fact that as babies, toddlers and preschool years I feel the need to be the one caring for them on a daily basis. Logic tells me I am the perfect choice."
My own Logic tells me the same thing :)
"Logic tells me that it is odd to think I need daycare and a job to prove I am a woman."
Indeed!!!
"Logic also tells me that the whole point to the woman's movement was choice. We have choices now that we did not have years ago. I have the *choice* to sah."
I agree. The women's movement WAS about choice.
"My dh never filled my head with his female degrading mantras."
Nor did mine.
"I think I am intelligent enough to decide for myslf whether or not sah makes sense for my family."
As am I :) Great post!!!
Jennie
"Well, I don't think you're a bad mom at all. Maybe a little grasping, greedy, anti-feminine, with odd notions of gender equality and a basically abrasive outlook lol."
I think you might have forgotten militant LOL!
"And you keep talking about logic. Logic tells me that I am my children's mother. I find nothing odd about the fact that as babies, toddlers and preschool years I feel the need to be the one caring for them on a daily basis. Logic tells me I am the perfect choice."
That's not logic, that's instinct.
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"I do think that in our society *some* people feel the almightly dollar is the arbiter of worth. However, there is a large number of people that would disagree- teachers, nurses, professors, ministers, fire and police personell, EMTs, Supreme Court Justices, social workers........."
Indeed there IS a large number of people that would disagree :)
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