Who has influenced your sah/woh

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Who has influenced your sah/woh
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Thu, 02-09-2006 - 2:39pm

opinion to DIFFER. What I mean is--is there anyone on this board or in real life whose opinion/reasoning/debating/facts started to make your thinking more to the middle? As in if you thought sah or woh was best & then after some discussion/thought, you began to think that whatever is best for each family--really there is no one best way, etc.

We just really needed a new thread here!!!!!!!!

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Wed, 02-15-2006 - 1:07pm

The question was about a baby, not a 2-yr-old. How many infants or one-year-olds even know how to color or play trains? OTOH, I don't think I would put laundry ahead of a crying 2-yr-old, either.

When I had one baby, getting stuff done around the house during naptime was never a problem for me. Maybe that's because I've never spent two hours a day cleaning in my life. (Your house must be way bigger and cleaner than mine.) I also never had any problem interacting with my baby at the grocery store or anywhere else I needed to go. With one baby and one toddler, I was considerably busier, and I did have to do my serious cleaning at night. But I sah to take care of my kids, not the house, so for me, having to spend a couple of evenings a week cleaning was not a big deal.




Edited 2/15/2006 1:10 pm ET by mom34101
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Wed, 02-15-2006 - 1:08pm

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Yes, I asked you which child was better or worse, you compared them and gave me an answer.

PumpkinAngel

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Wed, 02-15-2006 - 1:10pm

If you don't care what is better or worse, than why not just accept they are different?

PumpkinAngel

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Wed, 02-15-2006 - 1:10pm

My children will be in school when I return to work. They would be in school anyway. Household chores? Hire a cleaning service. I could but we have a good system in place. Once again, being able to afford a cleaning service is not a great reason to woh.

Most husbands I know would have no problems with their wives returnig to work. Mine is excited. The only dh's that I know who would not like are 1. those in crappy marriages 2. those whose dh's are polieman or fireman and only b/c of their hours. I have a lot of friends who sah b/c their spouses are in the polie/fire dept. Their hours are too erractic. These women usually return to work at least part-time when their children are in school.

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Wed, 02-15-2006 - 1:11pm
Just read the thread; you'll find what you're looking for ;-)
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Wed, 02-15-2006 - 1:14pm

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Key word there is entitled.

PumpkinAngel

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Wed, 02-15-2006 - 1:15pm

"I do not see the point or advantage."


I guess because you're looking at the point or advantage of othercare in a vacuum?

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Wed, 02-15-2006 - 1:17pm

While I don't stand around all day watching my children and comparing them, it is very obvious to anyone and everyone who meet them and spend any amount of time in their presence that they are too very different children.


I marvel

PumpkinAngel

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Wed, 02-15-2006 - 1:18pm
So is SAH really a choice in those circumstances, or not?

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Wed, 02-15-2006 - 1:20pm

In all fairness to Tinder, she said they stick close to home on the weekends, I don't recall that she said he was exhausted (although I could have missed a post).

PumpkinAngel

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