Who has influenced your sah/woh
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Who has influenced your sah/woh
| Thu, 02-09-2006 - 2:39pm |
opinion to DIFFER. What I mean is--is there anyone on this board or in real life whose opinion/reasoning/debating/facts started to make your thinking more to the middle? As in if you thought sah or woh was best & then after some discussion/thought, you began to think that whatever is best for each family--really there is no one best way, etc.
We just really needed a new thread here!!!!!!!!


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Exactly.
PumpkinAngel
Jennie
And now, as a light diversion, check out this Hollywood-teasing website where (among other things) actors and actresses are compared to household objects and ranked as either better or worse than those household objects.
www.fametracker.com
This week they are doing Alysson Hannigan (from Buffy the Vampire Slayer) vs. cloth napkins. I won't ruin the suspense and tell you which one they decide is better. But it sure does go with the amusing theme that all things MUST be rankable.
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That's a terribly unfair stereotype. Many women living on welfare are wohms. Underpaid, undervalued, doing menial labor that you or I would not even touch. But many welfare moms do work, off the books of course.
I know this from having deposed (interviewed) many in my former job, helping in a soup kitchen and in a battered women's shelter.
Jennie
"Can you actually argue that taking care of their children should have less importance for men?"
Absolutely not. Nor am I attempting to make such an argument.
"I said that when men are equally likely to stay at home as women, then it will be respected."
And IMHO, SAH is worthy of respect regardless of the number of men vs. women who SAH.
"Yes, women working furthers progress."
As does SAH IMHO, regardless of whether it's done by men or women. Why do you think that women SAH = lack of progress, but yet men SAH = progress? Surely you can acknowledge that progress and change aren't necessarily mutually exclusive? IMHO, progress is facilitated by *increasing* the number of choices, not by *limiting* them.
"You can't very well expect men to take on more child rearing and women just do what they've always done."
Why on earth not LOL??? Is there some reason why an extensive system of trickery and bartering is needed simply for men to take on more child rearing? My dh doesn't need such a system. He actively wishes to be a highly invloved parent? Sorry, but I think all this silly game playing more or less defeats the underlying purpose of parenting. Shouldn't fathers freely CHOOSE to do right by their children, rather than be manipulated into it? Honestly I can't comprehend a POV that is based on such a blatantly deceptive agenda!
That's why I asked, it seemed out of place.
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Is this an individual perspective only?
PumpkinAngel
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