Who has influenced your sah/woh

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Who has influenced your sah/woh
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Thu, 02-09-2006 - 2:39pm

opinion to DIFFER. What I mean is--is there anyone on this board or in real life whose opinion/reasoning/debating/facts started to make your thinking more to the middle? As in if you thought sah or woh was best & then after some discussion/thought, you began to think that whatever is best for each family--really there is no one best way, etc.

We just really needed a new thread here!!!!!!!!

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Registered: 07-16-2005
Wed, 02-15-2006 - 1:51pm

<<...sometimes before school is out...>>>

That's all I've been saying. Wheww! Finally.

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Registered: 01-13-2006
Wed, 02-15-2006 - 1:52pm
you are right....there is a huge and growing larger every year segment of our population that is considered working poor. but that does not negate the fact there is also segment of our population that does not work and my question was are those mothers included in the study that says most sahm's are middle to upper class.
Jennie
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Registered: 07-16-2005
Wed, 02-15-2006 - 1:54pm

Which posters here? I've totally missed thoses posts.

And, of course, this particular debate on this particular subject has throughout been about sah versus dc, not school.

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Registered: 01-13-2006
Wed, 02-15-2006 - 1:56pm

"See, the thing is you and KBMAMM are cut from the same cloth. You both pay lip service to the idea that SAH is a valid choice, yet neither of you actually believe it. Just own that. You are both so preoccupied with the "what if" game, which is great for you. Just own it. Others prefer to live life in the here and now and enjoy what we have, not worrying that the great horrible thing is going to come along and take everything we have. Different strokes."

Yep :)

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 02-15-2006 - 1:58pm

>>Regardless, all parents would have to admit sah allows these opportunities which dc does not.>>

What do you think kids do in DC? The DC and preschools my kids atteded included, at various time, swimming lessons, dance class, little gym, Spanish lessons, tennis, and field trips to museums, children's theater, concerts, etc. Some of these are the same activites I would've taken my kids to as a SAHM. Other activites are things my older child might have missed out on because of the logistical restraints of taking the younger one along.

I don't thing DC kids have all the same opportunities as SAH kids, but the flip side is that DC kids sometimes get opportunities that SAH kids miss out on. Furthermore, the variations between the opportunities available in different locations, the differences between various DCs, and the personal preferences of the parents mean that generalizations about the enrichment opportunites available to SAH vs DC kids are pretty meaningless.

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Wed, 02-15-2006 - 1:59pm

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Add to that not having siblings in school. I don't have time in the mornings before DS1 has to be picked up from K, and DS2 from preschool, to take DD to places like the zoo during the week. Instead, she gets the fun-filled and educational trip to Target. Honestly, though, getting to a place like the zoo, Sea World, etc., about once a month is plenty, and we've actually found those places to be less crowded on Sunday mornings than they are on weekdays with all the school field trip kids.

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Registered: 01-13-2006
Wed, 02-15-2006 - 2:02pm

"Well, a heck of a lot of people are very concerned about dc ratios."

Indeed they are :) Why are they mandated by the state if they are so unimportant?

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Registered: 01-13-2006
Wed, 02-15-2006 - 2:03pm
yes, the evening activites are for the older kids and the little one has to go right along with us as part of the family. i guess i dont see how who the activities are for is relevant. there are always alot of babies and toddlers at every evening activity we attend. i just dont consider it a need of my children to have my undivided attention 24/7. i found i was perfectly able to meet their needs, have play/cuddle time and still accomplish the other things that needed to be done.
Jennie
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Registered: 01-13-2006
Wed, 02-15-2006 - 2:03pm

"Translation: SAH is a foolish choice. Gotcha."

You caught that too huh :)

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Registered: 07-16-2005
Wed, 02-15-2006 - 2:05pm
Do you even know what your State's regulations are?

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