Who is raising your children?
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Who is raising your children?
| Wed, 07-08-2009 - 3:15pm |
First a few disclaimers - if you are a single or divorced parent, you probably don't have a choice between being a SAHP or a WOHP, (unless you are independently wealthy and then i'm very jealous of you!), most likely you have to WOH to be able to provide the basics for your children.
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just read a post today on one of these threads where the poster said,"i am raising my kids, not my daycare provider."
I'm not sure what post taht was, but I'm sure that if you kept reading, the poster also said that the dpc was helping to raise the kids.....
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Ducky
Who is ultimately responsible for those children and for insuring that they are cared for in a loving and safe way?
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PumpkinAngel
"You are right, the parents make the decisions, but if the parents are not home during the day, the caregiver is implementing the decisions."
That is true even if the caregiver is one of the parents and the other parent is the woh parent. Are you saying that the sahp is more involved in the raising of the children than the woh parent?
"And again my question was posed to women who choose to work for other than financial reasons."
And again I am asking why you are ONLY asking *women*- what about the men?
What determines whether or not a parent is a "have to" or a "want to" wohp? Do only current monthly bills have to be covered? or Should retirement savings also be contributed? What about college savings? What about government aid? Should a family choose to get government aid so they can afford to have a sahp? Perhaps the family could afford a sahp if they sold their house and moved into a 2 bedroom apartment and gave up their cars. Perhaps a family could afford a sahp if they moved 1500 miles toa small town in Iowa. Should they do that for the soul reason of having a sahp?
There are many different reasons a person may or may not choose to be a sahp. Their personal experience. The flexibility of both parent's jobs. The ability to take off 5-10 years and still be able to work in the career they had. The availability of high quality affordable daycare, the family support systems, the personalities of the parents, the personalities of the children.....
"I said I think a parent should be home till the kids are old enough for elementary school."
Why is elementary school the magic age? IMO, it is more important for a parent to be home during the junior high years that the preschool years.
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As a SAHP I am the Primary Parent my kids rely on.
"What changes when they reach school age is that at age 6 (at least in my state), it is required by law for a child to receive education. "
How does that change it? One can homeschool as you have said. Plus IME, elementary school covers only about 50% of the hours required by a fulltime job. So why is now magically okay for a family to have dual ftwohps- since the kids would spend 50% of the time NOT in school and in othercare?
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Here may be where we diverge.
No, receiving an education does not mean that you have to send your kids to school.
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