Why are working moms so angry and defensive?
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Why are working moms so angry and defensive?
| Fri, 02-24-2012 - 1:26am |
This whole board is extremely scary to approach if you are a sahm and love doing it or at least feel you are doing the right thing for your child. The minute a sahm says my children love me at home or I don't want anyone else taking care of them during the day, the working moms immediately start making sarcastic remarks, such as "oh, I guess I am hurting my kids by working" or you start acting as if they are more intelligent or have a higher education than sahm's. Frankly, I believe the defensiveness and anger comes from guilt and insecurity. Maybe, deep down inside you think that your child wants you around more. Ok, start going crazy on me for stating an opposing thought that goes against the mob.
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We be rollin', you be hatin'......
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Kitty
"If you can't annoy somebody with what you write, I think there's little point in writing."-- Kingsley Amis, British novelist, 1971 t .
I'll tell you why I work.
The truth may be out there but lies are in your head. Terry Pratchett
I'm now an SAHM. My kids also enjoy having me home, but I don't see this as a reason for dissing someone else's choice, or assuming that someone who WOH is defensive and guilty. I was also a WOHM and did not feel the least bit guilty.
Why assume that you know others' motivations? It's perfectly okay to say you love SAH without implying anything about anyone else.
I think a lot of posters are shocked when someone disagrees with them.
Well, no wonder. What parent allows a child to define the parent/child relationship? My children are older and love me to not be at home so they can watch tv, play vidios games, but I'm the parent so I get to decide what's best for the entire family.
<"oh, I guess I am hurting my kids by working" or you start acting as if they are more intelligent or have a higher education than sahm's.>
Well, SES is objectively a primary factor in good and bad outcomes for children, though individual circumstances can vary widely. If you want to post on a debate board, you should be prepared to argue your position - it's what we do.
< I believe the defensiveness and anger comes from guilt and insecurity. Maybe, deep down inside you think that your child wants you around more.>
No defensiveness, anger or guilt. I know my kids don't want my husband and I around as much anymore, but they are a preteen and teens testing their boundaries.
No, you haven't stated anything new. Just the same ole, mah babies need meeeeee and my way it the bestest way for everyone else. BTW - It's provably not, but we're all copacetic that it works for you.
Why do you seem to be so accusatory and jumping to conclusions?
It has been 3 days since your op.
The truth may be out there but lies are in your head. Terry Pratchett
Ok, start going crazy on me for stating an opposing thought that goes against the mob.
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