Why are working moms so angry and defensive?

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Why are working moms so angry and defensive?
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Fri, 02-24-2012 - 1:26am
This whole board is extremely scary to approach if you are a sahm and love doing it or at least feel you are doing the right thing for your child. The minute a sahm says my children love me at home or I don't want anyone else taking care of them during the day, the working moms immediately start making sarcastic remarks, such as "oh, I guess I am hurting my kids by working" or you start acting as if they are more intelligent or have a higher education than sahm's. Frankly, I believe the defensiveness and anger comes from guilt and insecurity. Maybe, deep down inside you think that your child wants you around more. Ok, start going crazy on me for stating an opposing thought that goes against the mob.
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Tue, 02-28-2012 - 11:22am
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Tue, 02-28-2012 - 11:24am
"Whether, one admits it or not, two incomes are better than one and do allow for a a better 'quality of life' when it comes to doing things for yourself as a woman or even for your kids."

Do you have sources for this info? I have to ask, what difference does it make how many sources there are for the income, as long as there is sufficient income to meet the family's needs?
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Tue, 02-28-2012 - 6:07pm

"Whether, one admits it or not, two incomes are better than one and do allow for a a better 'quality of life' when it comes to doing things for yourself as a woman or even for your kids."

Actually that is not true.

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Tue, 02-28-2012 - 7:28pm
bbaldez wrote:

Whether, one admits it or not, two incomes are better than one and do allow for a a better 'quality of life' when it comes to doing things for yourself as a woman or even for your kids.

Doesn't that depend on the incomes you're talking about?

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Tue, 02-28-2012 - 8:07pm
True. Most of this debate, on both sides, is just people's opinions.
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Wed, 02-29-2012 - 8:36am

I agree with you, And I think facts are relative to our own situations.

 


 


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Registered: 10-23-2001
Wed, 02-29-2012 - 8:38am
I think it comes down to standards of living a lot.

 


 


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Wed, 02-29-2012 - 9:14am
Yes, and if the second earner wouldn't make enough to pay for childcare, it wouldn't even increase family income. Sometimes, if a family has enough with one income, it isn't "better" to have more money--they find it "better" to have more time.
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Wed, 02-29-2012 - 11:38pm
Maybe working moms bristle when you preach at them and tell them they are defensive and angry. I wonder why you feel like such a target of sarcastic attacks when you post a passive aggressive one of your own...
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Fri, 03-02-2012 - 10:57am
Sharington wrote:

Having to meet the needs/demands of the children, husband/boyfriend/commonlaw partner on a 24 hour basis.

Inadequate parking facilities at work. Of all the complaints I've heard from working people (not just women) i don't really think this qualifies.