Why are you a working mother?

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Registered: 01-23-2008
Why are you a working mother?
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Fri, 02-01-2008 - 5:01pm

Why are you a working mother?



  • I would like to stay home, but we need the 2nd income.
  • I would like to stay home, but I'm a single parent.
  • I wouldn't like being home all day; I prefer to work.
  • I like my job, and we do need the money.
  • Other


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iVillage Member
Registered: 07-26-2007
Sat, 02-02-2008 - 11:12am

If sleep time doesn't count, you have to subtract it from the daycare hours as well.

And, of course, SAHPs don't get any credit for night time or naps, either.

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Registered: 04-04-2005
Sat, 02-02-2008 - 11:14am
I have not met these types of SAHMs. All my SAHM friends had dhs that are either lawyers, CEOs, engineers and earning 200K+ living much better than we are. I also think it is a job in itself to be married to their dh. There is always a dinner and lots of entertaining. I think they work more than I do. One of my friends had to entertain Middle East dignitaries wives at her house. I think she spent two week preparing for it.

 

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Registered: 12-06-2004
Sat, 02-02-2008 - 11:16am
Yup!

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-04-2005
Sat, 02-02-2008 - 11:18am
I have encountered these types of SAHMs. Usually their decision to SAH is religious based. The man is truly the head of the household and she is to be his servant.

 

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Registered: 08-26-2007
Sat, 02-02-2008 - 11:18am

"Sadly, this is oftent he case but women make this decision based on emotion instead of logic and end up doing the non best thing."

What do you mean? Are you saying that I made my decision based on emotion and did the non-best thing?

" I see so many women put their children and their famlies in jeopardy to SAH. The live hand to mouth, no savings and sometimes without medical insurance. There's one mom at our old school I've wanted to smack several times. She's constantly YELLLING at her kids reminding them that they cannot have this or that because they all MUST sacrifice so she can SAH. That is so wrong."

ITA. I know some on this board are asking you if that's true, but believe me, I know several like this. I only work three tens, and on my 2 weekdays off, I often take my dd to story times, gymboree or infant/toddler play areas. The only downside to this is the amount of sahms I run into who are so extremely negative. All that comes out of their mouth, it seems, is lamentations about how miserable their lives are, and how hard it is when you have kids. I can't take it. I separate myself when I hear this, and it's often. Some are downright mean to their kids. It can't possibly be "better" for the kids to be in that situation, I am sorry.
I did meet one cool sahm, though. One. She says she doesn't know what she'd do without me. I don't blame her. (Not to brag or anything)

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-24-2007
Sat, 02-02-2008 - 11:26am

>>The only downside to this is the amount of sahms I run into who are so extremely negative. All that comes out of their mouth, it seems, is lamentations about how miserable their lives are, and how hard it is when you have kids. I can't take it. I separate myself when I hear this, and it's often. Some are downright mean to their kids. It can't possibly be "better" for the kids to be in that situation, I am sorry.<<


When DD was a few months old and I was involved in starting a mom's club in our town, there were certainly a section of our members (and two of the board members) that were that way.

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Registered: 04-04-2005
Sat, 02-02-2008 - 11:30am
I can totally relate to that which is why I work part time instead of full time. I do have a comfort level that I have set for myself. Most of my good friends are SAHMs or they work very PT like I do. I also have a few friends that WOHFT and I totally understand their reasoning too. I always feel I am caught between two worlds with my job situation. Yes, I am earning a paycheck but I have set my hours so I am at home with the 3 year old during the week. I am grateful I have a PT job that gives me leave. Last night I took my older daughters and their Brownie troop for a sleepover in a church. I took the night off. Usually dh takes care of them on the WE which has been nice because it forces him to be involved critically in their care. The girls don't have a preferance for me - they love being taken care of by their dad on the WE. I figure out with all of my annual leave, sick leave, family personal days, and holiday time I average 14 hours a week but get paid for 20.

 

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-04-2007
Sat, 02-02-2008 - 12:10pm
I don't live in an area where that kind of lifestyle woudl be typical of either WM's or SAHM's.
iVillage Member
Registered: 10-04-2007
Sat, 02-02-2008 - 12:12pm
Once you have kids, it's no longer about what you enjoy.
iVillage Member
Registered: 10-04-2007
Sat, 02-02-2008 - 12:24pm

My dh once told me that I can do anything I want except SAH.

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