Why do some parents have to be so

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Registered: 01-12-2007
Why do some parents have to be so
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Tue, 02-06-2007 - 1:51pm
ridiculously difficult. I am a SAHM that decided this year I would watch a couple of children to make some extra money. I have lurked on this board a lot and notice quite a few WOHM here. I just stopped watching this one baby that I just couldn't figure out the parents. The baby was a mess all the time. She was sick, had multiple respiratory problems, and cried all the time. Every time I called the parents to pick the baby up due to wheezing, or fever they seemed annoyed with me. Which I thought was odd. I have a strict policy that if the children have green noses they must go home. Also if the children have a fever they must go home and not return for 24 hours after the fever has broken or on antibiotics. Well I could never figure out why the baby cried so much until I was talking to the mother. Apparently they allow this baby to sit in a swing in the evenings and on weekends to get her to sleep. So the only time this baby naps during the day on the weekends is in a swing. Well that is not going to happen here. The baby is almost 20 lbs and I am not purchasing a swing for this child to sleep in. So according to the mother this child goes home around 5:30 or 6pm and sleeps from 6:30 until 6:30 the next day. No wonder...she won't nap here. So I told the mother that if I couldn't get the baby to nap during the day then I would no longer be keeping this baby. Well I guess she didn't believe me and I gave these parents a 1 week notice. I can't imagine having my baby that I haven't seen all day sleep a half hour after I got home and sleep until the next morning. I have tried for 4 months to get this baby on a schedule. When the other 2 children I have take their nap this child screams and screams. Just weird to me that a parent would want this for their child.

   

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Registered: 09-07-2006
Sat, 02-10-2007 - 12:04am
Well, two weeks ago my DCP told me that DS was pushing the smaller kids. While I don't approve, its not something that I can address at home so it was up to her to solve it. There are no other kids at home so I can't correct a behavior that I don't observe. I also can't address at home any sleeping issues DS might have at daycare because I'm not there.

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Sat, 02-10-2007 - 1:48am

i agree that no dcp should have to take care of any child they dont want to. my issue with the parents in this situation is that they left their child in that sitiuation as long as they did. had it been me, i would have had my child out of there immediately.

do we know these parents didnt have their ducks in order? it doesnt sound like they had issues with the child, only the dcp did. being a dcp is hard work and being able to adapt and work with different types of children is probably one of the harder parts. but i do expect the dcp to deal with the issues that arise when i am not there, just as i expect the parents of my childrens friends to deal with the issues that arise when they are at their house playing, just as i expect teachers to deal with the issues that arise at school. i certainly expect to be informed, i will always do what i can to help, but i am not going to second grade again if my second grader needs help in spelling, that is the job of the teacher.
Jennie

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Sat, 02-10-2007 - 1:52am
no, providing what you need to have your daycare run smoothly is called a cost of doing business. just curious, how much money did you invest into your daycare before you started taking in kids, i would think it would take several hundred dollars to get up and running.
Jennie
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Sat, 02-10-2007 - 1:56am
the op was trying to equate how a pediatricain feels about their patients to how a dcp feels about the children in their care. you really dont think there would be a difference how you feel about a child you see for about 15 minutes twice a year as opposed to a child you care for 5-9 hours a day 5 days a week. maybe it is just me, but i cant imagine spending that much time with a child and not loving that child.
Jennie
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Sat, 02-10-2007 - 1:59am
perhaps not if you see them for 15 minutes twice a year, but if you spend several hours a day with them you certainly should. if you dont see the difference
Jennie
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Sat, 02-10-2007 - 2:06am

yes i do. you know what, a dcp would never have to come to me and tell me that because i would know long before that that something was amiss and would have my child out of there.

i expect the people i leave my children with to care for those children as if they were their own - its not a matter of them dealing with what a parent should be dealing with, it them dealing with issues that come up when the kids are with them, i expect it from dcps, teachers, my parents and parents of my childrens friends - if you agree to keep my child then you owe it to me and to them to give them the best possible care. you dont have to keep my kids but if you agree to do so the responsibility on you is high.
Jennie

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Sat, 02-10-2007 - 2:09am
a cost of doing business..... i wonder how much of the money she was making she was putting back into the daycare.
Jennie
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Sat, 02-10-2007 - 2:12am
i think everyone agrees it was best to get that child out of that situation. but when you leave your child with someone else to care for they do have to deal with the child that is there not the child they envisioned.
Jennie
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Sat, 02-10-2007 - 2:16am
do you deal with all of your kids in the same way? mine are all three so different that what works for one rarely works for the others and i have to adjust my parenting to fit their temprement and personality. do you expect your kids teachers to work with your kids in a way that works for them or to just do everything the same for each child, not taking the individual child into account
Jennie
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Sat, 02-10-2007 - 2:27am
oh i got it a long time ago - i just hope they put the word out - and word of mouth is the best or worst friend a dcp can have. by the way what would you have done if one of your children had needed to be held or carried to nap as an infant - i know i would have done whatever i needed to do
Jennie

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