Why do some parents have to be so

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-12-2007
Why do some parents have to be so
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Tue, 02-06-2007 - 1:51pm
ridiculously difficult. I am a SAHM that decided this year I would watch a couple of children to make some extra money. I have lurked on this board a lot and notice quite a few WOHM here. I just stopped watching this one baby that I just couldn't figure out the parents. The baby was a mess all the time. She was sick, had multiple respiratory problems, and cried all the time. Every time I called the parents to pick the baby up due to wheezing, or fever they seemed annoyed with me. Which I thought was odd. I have a strict policy that if the children have green noses they must go home. Also if the children have a fever they must go home and not return for 24 hours after the fever has broken or on antibiotics. Well I could never figure out why the baby cried so much until I was talking to the mother. Apparently they allow this baby to sit in a swing in the evenings and on weekends to get her to sleep. So the only time this baby naps during the day on the weekends is in a swing. Well that is not going to happen here. The baby is almost 20 lbs and I am not purchasing a swing for this child to sleep in. So according to the mother this child goes home around 5:30 or 6pm and sleeps from 6:30 until 6:30 the next day. No wonder...she won't nap here. So I told the mother that if I couldn't get the baby to nap during the day then I would no longer be keeping this baby. Well I guess she didn't believe me and I gave these parents a 1 week notice. I can't imagine having my baby that I haven't seen all day sleep a half hour after I got home and sleep until the next morning. I have tried for 4 months to get this baby on a schedule. When the other 2 children I have take their nap this child screams and screams. Just weird to me that a parent would want this for their child.

   

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iVillage Member
Registered: 01-12-2007
Sat, 02-10-2007 - 9:06am
LMAO Not my problem. They no longer have childcare.

   

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-12-2007
Sat, 02-10-2007 - 9:09am
Who punishes a 6 month old? Sure we don't control 6 month old's behaviors. No sir, I never picked up my babies from grandma's house and they were whiny the rest of the night because grandma held them all day. That never happened.

   

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Registered: 01-12-2007
Sat, 02-10-2007 - 9:12am
LMAOROF I am beginning to think your are posting just to see your words on this board. You have continued to ignore facts that I have posted to you. Now this is nothing but a blah blah blah fest.

   

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Registered: 11-03-2006
Sat, 02-10-2007 - 9:14am

Your goal is to CONTROL your kids? AT 6 months old???? Sounds like that idiot Ezzo to me.

My goal is to give my kids what they need to develop into the best people they can be. I will teach them that some behaviors are inappropriate but I hardly expect them to learn taht lesson by 6 months of age. We ARE talking about an infant here. Not a child you can reason with.

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Registered: 01-12-2007
Sat, 02-10-2007 - 9:15am
Exactly. You made my point. Their dd grew to expect sleeping in the swing. Their dd wanted to sleep in the swing here. Just because your children adapted differently at dc doesn't mean that is the rule. Children all behave differently. Your children are not the golden rule of children.

   

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-03-2006
Sat, 02-10-2007 - 9:18am

No dear I didn't make your point. LOL.

You are the one claiming it was the swing yet you never tried it at your house so you never proved that. This baby was not used to sleeping in a swing at your house. She was not in the habit of napping in the swing because she was at your house most of the time for nap time. Your house is what she was used to for nap time. Poor baby.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sat, 02-10-2007 - 9:19am


But the baby was 6 months old right?

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Registered: 01-12-2007
Sat, 02-10-2007 - 9:19am

No I dont think the parents should change what they do. THEY NEED TO PROVIDE ME WITH THE THING THAT THEY DO? Why is this so hard for you to grasp. Comprehension problem

(((I'd say it's you who needs to change what you do. You are, after all, the one with the problem.)))

No I am not. I am not the one without childcare anymore.

(((I can see you recommending that the parents change something if you had something that actually worked but you didn't!!! You're the one who could not get the baby to sleep. You would not try the method the parents used.)))

It is very hard to try a method when the parents won't buy a swing. Should we go over how the parents should have done that again? I can go step by step for you again if you would like.

(((Instead, you want to tell them what to do when you can't even get the baby to sleep. OKAYYYY.)))

Another fabrication. WOW!

(((I must have missed something somewhere, lol.)))

That is very apparent.

   

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-03-2006
Sat, 02-10-2007 - 9:19am
How many times are you going to announce that you got back at them for not doing what you told them to do? Are you proud of this or something?
iVillage Member
Registered: 01-12-2007
Sat, 02-10-2007 - 9:20am
You are correct. I have a good friend that her son was a biter. The daycare tried everything they could to get this child to stop biting. Nothing worked. They finally told the mother he could no longer come to their center. This was most definately her problem not theirs.

   

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