Why do some parents have to be so

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Registered: 01-12-2007
Why do some parents have to be so
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Tue, 02-06-2007 - 1:51pm
ridiculously difficult. I am a SAHM that decided this year I would watch a couple of children to make some extra money. I have lurked on this board a lot and notice quite a few WOHM here. I just stopped watching this one baby that I just couldn't figure out the parents. The baby was a mess all the time. She was sick, had multiple respiratory problems, and cried all the time. Every time I called the parents to pick the baby up due to wheezing, or fever they seemed annoyed with me. Which I thought was odd. I have a strict policy that if the children have green noses they must go home. Also if the children have a fever they must go home and not return for 24 hours after the fever has broken or on antibiotics. Well I could never figure out why the baby cried so much until I was talking to the mother. Apparently they allow this baby to sit in a swing in the evenings and on weekends to get her to sleep. So the only time this baby naps during the day on the weekends is in a swing. Well that is not going to happen here. The baby is almost 20 lbs and I am not purchasing a swing for this child to sleep in. So according to the mother this child goes home around 5:30 or 6pm and sleeps from 6:30 until 6:30 the next day. No wonder...she won't nap here. So I told the mother that if I couldn't get the baby to nap during the day then I would no longer be keeping this baby. Well I guess she didn't believe me and I gave these parents a 1 week notice. I can't imagine having my baby that I haven't seen all day sleep a half hour after I got home and sleep until the next morning. I have tried for 4 months to get this baby on a schedule. When the other 2 children I have take their nap this child screams and screams. Just weird to me that a parent would want this for their child.

   

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Registered: 01-12-2007
Sat, 02-10-2007 - 9:23am
Your son is pushing other children at daycare and you didn't address it? Really? If my son were pushing other children at daycare I most certainly would address him with it. I would tell him exactly what his dcp told me about him pushing and that mommy did NOT like that and that he should never push again. I woiuld most definately work with my dcp to get my son not to be pushing other children. All it takes is for your son to push another child and that child fall down and get seriously hurt for this to be a big problem that YOU will have to deal with.

   

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sat, 02-10-2007 - 9:23am

Dcp love does run deep.

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Registered: 01-12-2007
Sat, 02-10-2007 - 9:24am
Yes it did take several hundred dollars. However it isn't my responsibility to provide individual needs for children. If their is something specific that a child needs i.e. a certain type of humidifier, or crib and I don't have that item I am not going to buy it. That will be an expense the parent has to incur.

   

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Registered: 01-12-2007
Sat, 02-10-2007 - 9:26am
I didn't say that providers DONT love the children they care for. However that is NOT my job to do.

   

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Registered: 01-12-2007
Sat, 02-10-2007 - 9:31am

(((oh i got it a long time ago - i just hope they put the word out - and word of mouth is the best or worst friend a dcp can have. by the way what would you have done if one of your children had needed to be held or carried to nap as an infant - i know i would have done whatever i needed to do)))

Actually I have had 3 other parents ask me if I would take their children this summer. The other two parents that I have love their children being here. So the word of mouth is a great thing. I have more requests than I can handle. I had to put 2 on a waiting list. Thanks for asking.

   

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Registered: 01-12-2007
Sat, 02-10-2007 - 9:32am

So sorry I confused that. It was the little boy that I have.

Editted to add that Sometimes I get to typing so fast trying to catch up I make mistakes. Happens here a lot.




Edited 2/10/2007 9:33 am ET by hockeymom017

   

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Registered: 01-12-2007
Sat, 02-10-2007 - 9:34am
Thanks for adding absolutely nothing to the debate. Good work.

   

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Registered: 01-12-2007
Sat, 02-10-2007 - 9:35am
School tracked out on Wednesday at noon.

   

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Registered: 01-12-2007
Sat, 02-10-2007 - 9:38am

(((What can the parents do at the time it happens when they're not even there?? How can you blame the parents for this happening when it happens under your supervision?)))

Are you seriously saying that if a child is doing this at daycare then it isn't the parents problem? You don't think it takes the dc and the parents to fix this? It most certainly is the parents problem. That child continues to do it that child can no longer come to dc.

(((I'm sorry. I disagree. It seems to me you take very little responsibility for anything that goes on in your day care. It's your job to take control of your atmosphere and make your days run smoothly. It's not up to the parents to do that for you.))

I am not asking the parents to do any such thing.

   

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Registered: 06-30-2006
Sat, 02-10-2007 - 9:38am
Maybe so, but to me, love is love - a feeling that I highly doubt my dcp felt for my kids, and one I wouldn't have expected her to feel.

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