Why do some parents have to be so

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Registered: 01-12-2007
Why do some parents have to be so
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Tue, 02-06-2007 - 1:51pm
ridiculously difficult. I am a SAHM that decided this year I would watch a couple of children to make some extra money. I have lurked on this board a lot and notice quite a few WOHM here. I just stopped watching this one baby that I just couldn't figure out the parents. The baby was a mess all the time. She was sick, had multiple respiratory problems, and cried all the time. Every time I called the parents to pick the baby up due to wheezing, or fever they seemed annoyed with me. Which I thought was odd. I have a strict policy that if the children have green noses they must go home. Also if the children have a fever they must go home and not return for 24 hours after the fever has broken or on antibiotics. Well I could never figure out why the baby cried so much until I was talking to the mother. Apparently they allow this baby to sit in a swing in the evenings and on weekends to get her to sleep. So the only time this baby naps during the day on the weekends is in a swing. Well that is not going to happen here. The baby is almost 20 lbs and I am not purchasing a swing for this child to sleep in. So according to the mother this child goes home around 5:30 or 6pm and sleeps from 6:30 until 6:30 the next day. No wonder...she won't nap here. So I told the mother that if I couldn't get the baby to nap during the day then I would no longer be keeping this baby. Well I guess she didn't believe me and I gave these parents a 1 week notice. I can't imagine having my baby that I haven't seen all day sleep a half hour after I got home and sleep until the next morning. I have tried for 4 months to get this baby on a schedule. When the other 2 children I have take their nap this child screams and screams. Just weird to me that a parent would want this for their child.

   

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Registered: 06-30-2006
Sat, 02-10-2007 - 9:41am
You're absolutely right, which is why it's absurd to accuse the OP of having problems in her day care due to lack of love for the baby, or perhaps lack of the right kind of love, let alone parental love.

Sabina

Oh, life is a glorious cycle of song,

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Registered: 06-30-2006
Sat, 02-10-2007 - 9:42am
Yes, and I'm afraid love, with or without a Capital L, has little to do with it.

Sabina


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And love is a thing that can never go wrong; and I am Marie of Roumania.


Sabina

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Registered: 01-12-2007
Sat, 02-10-2007 - 9:43am

Fabrication 1

(((She is, obviously, unwilling to meet this child's needs because they don't fit her preconcieved idea of how things should be.)))

Where did I say anything like this?

Fabrication 2

((( Kids don't need to be kicked to the curb when they don't fit their dcp's idea of what they should be. They need loving care and that is not loving care.)))

Another where did you get this? Because her parents were unwilling to buy her a swing to keep here I am the one not meeting her needs? You sure about that?

Fabrication 3

(((It's only a matter of time before she meets another child whose behavior she dislikes. I feel bad for the kids.)))

Where did I say I disliked her behavior? I said more than once to you that the parents were unwilling to work with me to correct this problem. Nothing about the baby or her behavior EVER mentioned by me. She is an absolute doll. I certainly wished that they had gotten her a nanny.


   

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Registered: 01-12-2007
Sat, 02-10-2007 - 9:45am

How can I try it if they DON'T provide it? Simple process, why can't you follow it?

(((Your house is what she was used to for nap time. Poor baby.)))

Are you having a hard time understanding that this baby was home for 6 weeks before I had her? I didn't start caring for her right out of the womb. She was used to sleeping in her swing. EVERY single day.

   

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Registered: 06-30-2006
Sat, 02-10-2007 - 9:45am
I don't for the life of me see how the OP's feelings for her dc kids come into the debate, or even on what evidence her feelings could possibly be characterized from what has been posted.

Sabina


Oh, life is a glorious cycle of song, a medley of extemporanea:


And love is a thing that can never go wrong; and I am Marie of Roumania.


Sabina

Oh, life is a glorious cycle of song,

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Registered: 01-12-2007
Sat, 02-10-2007 - 9:46am

She was 6 months when she left.

((Besides..I think it's a good thing that you let them go. You had too much to handle with 3 infants anyway.))

It wasn't too much.

   

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Registered: 01-12-2007
Sat, 02-10-2007 - 9:48am
I didn't get back at them. I sat down with them and explained the situation. I told them that I needed the swing here so that I could get their dd what she needed. I told them 2 weeks later that I really needed that swing. Two weeks later I gave them a 1 weeks notice. They didn't do their part in problem solving with this baby. So I had no choice but to let her go.

   

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Registered: 06-30-2006
Sat, 02-10-2007 - 9:49am
Whoosh... you missed the winkie icon.

Sabina


Oh, life is a glorious cycle of song, a medley of extemporanea:


And love is a thing that can never go wrong; and I am Marie of Roumania.


Sabina

Oh, life is a glorious cycle of song,

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sat, 02-10-2007 - 9:49am


You didn't say that it takes working together with the parents to fix it.

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Sat, 02-10-2007 - 9:52am

OMG


At 6 weeks of age, she wasn't used to anything.


Let me guess..you're very young and you haven't been at this day care thing very long.


Am I right?


Sue

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