Why do some parents have to be so

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Registered: 01-12-2007
Why do some parents have to be so
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Tue, 02-06-2007 - 1:51pm
ridiculously difficult. I am a SAHM that decided this year I would watch a couple of children to make some extra money. I have lurked on this board a lot and notice quite a few WOHM here. I just stopped watching this one baby that I just couldn't figure out the parents. The baby was a mess all the time. She was sick, had multiple respiratory problems, and cried all the time. Every time I called the parents to pick the baby up due to wheezing, or fever they seemed annoyed with me. Which I thought was odd. I have a strict policy that if the children have green noses they must go home. Also if the children have a fever they must go home and not return for 24 hours after the fever has broken or on antibiotics. Well I could never figure out why the baby cried so much until I was talking to the mother. Apparently they allow this baby to sit in a swing in the evenings and on weekends to get her to sleep. So the only time this baby naps during the day on the weekends is in a swing. Well that is not going to happen here. The baby is almost 20 lbs and I am not purchasing a swing for this child to sleep in. So according to the mother this child goes home around 5:30 or 6pm and sleeps from 6:30 until 6:30 the next day. No wonder...she won't nap here. So I told the mother that if I couldn't get the baby to nap during the day then I would no longer be keeping this baby. Well I guess she didn't believe me and I gave these parents a 1 week notice. I can't imagine having my baby that I haven't seen all day sleep a half hour after I got home and sleep until the next morning. I have tried for 4 months to get this baby on a schedule. When the other 2 children I have take their nap this child screams and screams. Just weird to me that a parent would want this for their child.

   

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Registered: 11-15-2006
Sat, 02-10-2007 - 12:29pm

Come to you and tell you what?

I do not see how this relates to anything i have ponted out.

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Registered: 11-15-2006
Sat, 02-10-2007 - 12:31pm

Who ever said dcp are not to deal with issues?

No one has insisted what you claim.

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Registered: 09-07-2006
Sat, 02-10-2007 - 12:31pm

So how exactly would I do that? Sit him down and explain to him that pushing isn't okay? Since you didn't notice in my siggy I'll tell you: DS is 22 months old. A stern talking to won't get me very far with someone who isn't even 2 yet. The best way to deal with his behavior is to address it as it occurs and since we have no other children at home there is no one for him to push, I cannot address this behavior because I don't see it happen.


I did discuss it with his DCP and she agreed that I can't do anything about it because at the moment DS is on only child and this behavior only occurs at daycare.


As for him sleeping daycare, which he has gotten used to, again I cannot replicate the conditions at home. At home he sleeps alone in his bed, at daycare he sleeps in a room full of kids. Should I invite the neighborhood over for naptime?

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Registered: 11-15-2006
Sat, 02-10-2007 - 12:32pm
ITA, well said!
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Registered: 11-15-2006
Sat, 02-10-2007 - 2:27pm

<> Um yes it is a parent's job to get their children on a schedule.

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Of course it is, that is not my point.




Edited 2/10/2007 2:59 pm ET by xenozany
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Registered: 11-15-2006
Sat, 02-10-2007 - 2:34pm

<> If your daycare provider was short a crib, then she would not have room for another child imo or she should find another one.

If it was me and I wanted to work with this provider, as the parent i would buy her the swing to help solve the problem, instead of blamming the problem on somone else.

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Registered: 01-15-2006
Sat, 02-10-2007 - 2:35pm

i'd not be impressed if a dcp who told me that though,too. "i don't care what a parent's schedule is at home" implies no consideration of what a parent maybe looking for in a sitter...for the short period of time i did woh while living in indianapolis,i found the most fantastic,well liked sitter in my neighborhood. moms were on a waiting list just to get in. i remember times when i'd pick my child up early and there she would be,sitting on *m*'s lap while others were napping and while another couple were in center time playing quietly. i don't know how she did it but her home dc ran well,very well and she was compensated well because of it.

but that statement just makes me cringe.




Edited 2/10/2007 2:42 pm ET by egd3blessed

 

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Registered: 01-15-2006
Sat, 02-10-2007 - 2:37pm
>>It's my job to set my own schedule because I'm the one running the show in my day care<<
and if i was paying a dcp to provide care for my child,i would be looking for one that ran it the way i wanted it run,too!!

 

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Registered: 11-15-2006
Sat, 02-10-2007 - 2:38pm

Um, no.




Edited 2/10/2007 3:05 pm ET by xenozany
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Registered: 01-04-2005
Sat, 02-10-2007 - 2:39pm
Actually at around 25 months or so my DD bit another child at DC. In the car I told her if I got another report of biting she would lose her favorite toy at the time (a priate sword). I got another report and we went home and got the priate sword together. I put it away. We then had a five day count down to get her sword back. She had to go five days wit no reports of biting. On the way to school, DH and DD would discuss no biting and what she was working towards. On the way home I would praise her for no reports of biting and remind her how many more days. She made it the full five days and we never had a report of biting again. I think it is very possible to work with a toddler on school behavior at home.
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