Why do some parents have to be so

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-12-2007
Why do some parents have to be so
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Tue, 02-06-2007 - 1:51pm
ridiculously difficult. I am a SAHM that decided this year I would watch a couple of children to make some extra money. I have lurked on this board a lot and notice quite a few WOHM here. I just stopped watching this one baby that I just couldn't figure out the parents. The baby was a mess all the time. She was sick, had multiple respiratory problems, and cried all the time. Every time I called the parents to pick the baby up due to wheezing, or fever they seemed annoyed with me. Which I thought was odd. I have a strict policy that if the children have green noses they must go home. Also if the children have a fever they must go home and not return for 24 hours after the fever has broken or on antibiotics. Well I could never figure out why the baby cried so much until I was talking to the mother. Apparently they allow this baby to sit in a swing in the evenings and on weekends to get her to sleep. So the only time this baby naps during the day on the weekends is in a swing. Well that is not going to happen here. The baby is almost 20 lbs and I am not purchasing a swing for this child to sleep in. So according to the mother this child goes home around 5:30 or 6pm and sleeps from 6:30 until 6:30 the next day. No wonder...she won't nap here. So I told the mother that if I couldn't get the baby to nap during the day then I would no longer be keeping this baby. Well I guess she didn't believe me and I gave these parents a 1 week notice. I can't imagine having my baby that I haven't seen all day sleep a half hour after I got home and sleep until the next morning. I have tried for 4 months to get this baby on a schedule. When the other 2 children I have take their nap this child screams and screams. Just weird to me that a parent would want this for their child.

   

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iVillage Member
Registered: 11-15-2006
Sat, 02-10-2007 - 2:40pm

You are totally twisitng my word's around.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-27-2003
Sat, 02-10-2007 - 2:46pm

"Their dd grew to expect sleeping in the swing."

How can a 6 week old baby grow to get used to anything?

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-15-2006
Sat, 02-10-2007 - 2:49pm
A small price to pay to make the situation positive for her buisness. I would not continue doing something that was not working out positive for all invovled for money. NO WAY!
iVillage Member
Registered: 11-15-2006
Sat, 02-10-2007 - 2:53pm

A DCP has every right to end her services for a child and family that is not working out in her care.

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-07-2006
Sat, 02-10-2007 - 2:57pm

Different child, different discipline. Maybe in three months or so DS will understand but right now he still lives "in the now." Of course, I told him "no pushing" but I didn't expect that to solve the problem.


BTW, I checked with his DCP and his behavior is improving with her consistent use of time-outs (the same discipline technique we use at home) when he pushes.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 11-15-2006
Sat, 02-10-2007 - 2:58pm
Actually it is not her problem, the child is not in her care b/c the situation did not work out for the provider the baby or the family.
iVillage Member
Registered: 11-15-2006
Sat, 02-10-2007 - 3:00pm
EXACTLY!
iVillage Member
Registered: 11-03-2006
Sat, 02-10-2007 - 3:11pm

I would not be impressed with a dcp who claimed to match the parents schedules because it can't be done and I know it. Someone that ill informed would not be someone I'd want to hire. I expect my dcp to have a schedule and it can't be everyone's schedule. It has to be unique to her day care.

She can't serve lunch at six different times for six different kids. Kids need routine and every child on their own routine is no routine at day care.

The ONLY way I'd expect a care provider to match my schedule is if she were a nanny and the only kids she had were mine. A dcp simply cannot tell 4 different families she'll match their schedules. It won't work.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-15-2006
Sat, 02-10-2007 - 3:11pm

Of course not.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-03-2006
Sat, 02-10-2007 - 3:12pm

Then why are you saying the parents should have controlled this child at day care? She was six months old when she left and only 8 weeks old when she came.

I don't even control my 9 and 11 year olds and I can reason with them.

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