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Why do some parents have to be so
| Tue, 02-06-2007 - 1:51pm |
ridiculously difficult. I am a SAHM that decided this year I would watch a couple of children to make some extra money. I have lurked on this board a lot and notice quite a few WOHM here. I just stopped watching this one baby that I just couldn't figure out the parents. The baby was a mess all the time. She was sick, had multiple respiratory problems, and cried all the time. Every time I called the parents to pick the baby up due to wheezing, or fever they seemed annoyed with me. Which I thought was odd. I have a strict policy that if the children have green noses they must go home. Also if the children have a fever they must go home and not return for 24 hours after the fever has broken or on antibiotics. Well I could never figure out why the baby cried so much until I was talking to the mother. Apparently they allow this baby to sit in a swing in the evenings and on weekends to get her to sleep. So the only time this baby naps during the day on the weekends is in a swing. Well that is not going to happen here. The baby is almost 20 lbs and I am not purchasing a swing for this child to sleep in. So according to the mother this child goes home around 5:30 or 6pm and sleeps from 6:30 until 6:30 the next day. No wonder...she won't nap here. So I told the mother that if I couldn't get the baby to nap during the day then I would no longer be keeping this baby. Well I guess she didn't believe me and I gave these parents a 1 week notice. I can't imagine having my baby that I haven't seen all day sleep a half hour after I got home and sleep until the next morning. I have tried for 4 months to get this baby on a schedule. When the other 2 children I have take their nap this child screams and screams. Just weird to me that a parent would want this for their child.


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LOL. This ENTIRE discussion is about a 6 month old baby. Did you miss that part?
Still you said that the parents should control what the child does at day care. Read the post I linked to at your request. Care to explain how the parents are to control behaviors they aren't even there to see?
Sinc you're not talking about the 6 month old the rest of us are, at what age does the parent control what the child does at day care and how do they control it? Punishment? Screw the kids mind up with Ezzo tactics? How do you do it. I'm especially interested in behaviors mom and dad don't see at home. Say biting. How would you control a 1 year old biting at day care if the child didn't bite at home?
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No, I think it is the responsibility of the dcp and the parent.
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I could not disagree with you more, i have four children and i do address the behavior good or bad that they have had when iam not around or when they are in others care.
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So the parents are responsible for the child, the child is having a problem that makes it the parent's problem.
From the OP i do not think the baby and the provider was the right match, nothing agianst either of them, there was no reason to buy the swing.
Edited 2/10/2007 4:46 pm ET by xenozany
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No that is not what i said. Also this whole discussion is not only about a six month old baby. It has gone off on quite a few other tangents. lol
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actually,it does work but there are few quality dcps like her.
lunch was the only thing she designated *one* time for...the infants were in highchairs in the kitchen and her other couple had the dining room. everything else was custom designed,according to parents desires. i don't know that she had more than 4 which is why she always had a waiting list. there are some kids who just don't nap. *m* accomodated. her style stuck out in a crowd of ordinary dcps because it was unique,very fantastic.
but you've nailed the reason why many sahms don't woh if you're in favor of the notion that a dcp's schedule is paramount over a parent's desires.
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I sure can, i do not have to be there to teach my one year old or older child he/she should not bite, it is a process of course. Children need to be reminded, no biting it hurts, talk about it, that would be a great place to start, there are some wonderful ideas to stop biting and there are many reasons why a child bites. i would probably take the day off work to observe at day care to see what was going on. I realize that the bitting has to be dealt with when it happens but it is the parent job imo to help inforce. I would not just think it is the DCP problem and not do anything to address the issue.
Edited 2/10/2007 5:25 pm ET by xenozany
but what's to *adopt*? dcps are a paid service for you and your child.......out of curiosity,which side of the argument are you on wrt dcps raising children. do you believe they are?
Edited 2/10/2007 5:12 pm ET by egd3blessed
(((You didn't say that it takes working together with the parents to fix it. You said it's the parent's problem. I disagree.)))
If they are working together than it is the parents problem.
(((It's up to YOU the provider to see that you run your day care smoothly. It's up to YOU to find a way to help a baby settle down and go to sleep.)))
What part of I did find a way. That way was for the parents to bring me a swing. They didn't do their part.
(((Obviously the parent can't do that, they aren't there. It does no good to address the issue hours later at home..especially with a very young child.)))
Are you serious? If my child bite someone at school I would most definately address that at home. So which is it? You said ***You didn't say that it takes working together with the parents to fix it.*** Well if a parent isn't addressing it at home how exactly are they working together?
(((Regular, every day incidents need to be addressed by YOU the provider.)))
With support from the parents at home.
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