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Why do some parents have to be so
| Tue, 02-06-2007 - 1:51pm |
ridiculously difficult. I am a SAHM that decided this year I would watch a couple of children to make some extra money. I have lurked on this board a lot and notice quite a few WOHM here. I just stopped watching this one baby that I just couldn't figure out the parents. The baby was a mess all the time. She was sick, had multiple respiratory problems, and cried all the time. Every time I called the parents to pick the baby up due to wheezing, or fever they seemed annoyed with me. Which I thought was odd. I have a strict policy that if the children have green noses they must go home. Also if the children have a fever they must go home and not return for 24 hours after the fever has broken or on antibiotics. Well I could never figure out why the baby cried so much until I was talking to the mother. Apparently they allow this baby to sit in a swing in the evenings and on weekends to get her to sleep. So the only time this baby naps during the day on the weekends is in a swing. Well that is not going to happen here. The baby is almost 20 lbs and I am not purchasing a swing for this child to sleep in. So according to the mother this child goes home around 5:30 or 6pm and sleeps from 6:30 until 6:30 the next day. No wonder...she won't nap here. So I told the mother that if I couldn't get the baby to nap during the day then I would no longer be keeping this baby. Well I guess she didn't believe me and I gave these parents a 1 week notice. I can't imagine having my baby that I haven't seen all day sleep a half hour after I got home and sleep until the next morning. I have tried for 4 months to get this baby on a schedule. When the other 2 children I have take their nap this child screams and screams. Just weird to me that a parent would want this for their child.


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Did I say he went home at noon? No I don't think I did. I was explaining that school was tracked out as of noon.
(((I don't know and I don't care. I just know you've told enough provable fabrications that nothing you say has any credibility.)))
For someone that doesn't care you sure have posted quite a few posts. When you have something to add let us know. 3 for 3!
(((WHAT? Not your responsiblity to see to children's individual needs? Your job is to care for these children and yes that includes their individual needs.)))
Would you calm down? Read the context. It isn't my responsibility to provide them with things like a swing. I have 2 swings here. If these are not what the baby wants it is the parents job to provide this. Just like if I have baby food here and the parents tell me that one of them is allergic, it is my responsibility not to give that food to the baby but it is the parents responsibility to provide something else. I have standard supplies here. Anything over what I dont' have is not for me to provide.
(((I'm just shaking my head here.)))
Me too.
(((And putting you on ignore. This has me way too pissed off to post. How can anyone treat children this way?)))
Oh goodness I think you really should read context. I guess you won't. You havent' read half of my posts and keep repeating things that I didn't say.
(((I hope you find a job that meets all your requirements. If you dont' want to meet the individual needs of children, you should not be a dcp!!!!)))
Well I am. Of 2 beautiful sweethearts!
He does sleep where ever he wants, that happens to be in his bed, contrary to my attempts at co-sleeping when he was an infant.
I disagree that explaining anything to a 22 month old hours after the incident happened is going to produce any lasting effects. What worked was his DCP placing him in time out when he pushed someone, he caught on to the cause and effect, pushing=time out. If I had witnessed him pushing anyone I would've done the same thing.
So what would you do to solve the problem of a 1 year old biting at daycare since it's your problem. How will you control your child's behavior at day care?
I'm gonna go get some pop corn, this should be good.
What's to adopt? A schedule. When they play, when they eat, when they read stories and when and how they lay down for naps. If a dcp has 6 children they can't have 6 different schedules to accomodate each one. The schedules would conflict if Johnny is ready to go play at the park at 11:00AM and Suzy want's lunch while Sara wants a nap.
My kids quickly adopted the dcps nap time schedule and routine. That had the effect of adjusting bed time at home. In our case to earlier then my girls would get up earlier so they were ready for a nap at day care. Left to their own, they probably wouldn't have napped until about 2:00 in the afternoon. They adjusted to napping at 12:00.
No dcp's don't raise children, parents do. Dcp's provide care for children while their parents work. They are helping the parents to raise their children the way they want to. But a dcp couldn't raise someone elses kids if they wanted to. They're not around long enough to raise a child. Most kids move out of day care by the time they are 5 and they're hardly raised at 5.
Dcp's also aren't around the kids enough hours to be raising them and they are not the ones making the decisions as to how the child will be raised. They don't decide things like religion, what type of medical care they'll recieve, where they live, etc, etc, etc... Kind of hard to raise a child working only M-F 9-5 with that child for the first 5 years when you don't even make the decisions for that child.
I had a child who didn't nap. She had quiet time in a crib while the other kids napped.
I think it's too much to expect a dcp to indivdualize schedules. I'm glad our dcp didn't. Having her own schedule allowed for more activities the kids loved.
Um, this whole discussion is about a 6 month old child and what you can and cannot do. Please link to where you indicated that you were discussing another age range for kids.
You still haven't told me how you control your kids when you aren't there? How would you control a 1 year old biter's biting at day care when you aren't there? How would you control what a 6 month old needs to go down for a nap at day care when you are not there?
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