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Why do some parents have to be so
| Tue, 02-06-2007 - 1:51pm |
ridiculously difficult. I am a SAHM that decided this year I would watch a couple of children to make some extra money. I have lurked on this board a lot and notice quite a few WOHM here. I just stopped watching this one baby that I just couldn't figure out the parents. The baby was a mess all the time. She was sick, had multiple respiratory problems, and cried all the time. Every time I called the parents to pick the baby up due to wheezing, or fever they seemed annoyed with me. Which I thought was odd. I have a strict policy that if the children have green noses they must go home. Also if the children have a fever they must go home and not return for 24 hours after the fever has broken or on antibiotics. Well I could never figure out why the baby cried so much until I was talking to the mother. Apparently they allow this baby to sit in a swing in the evenings and on weekends to get her to sleep. So the only time this baby naps during the day on the weekends is in a swing. Well that is not going to happen here. The baby is almost 20 lbs and I am not purchasing a swing for this child to sleep in. So according to the mother this child goes home around 5:30 or 6pm and sleeps from 6:30 until 6:30 the next day. No wonder...she won't nap here. So I told the mother that if I couldn't get the baby to nap during the day then I would no longer be keeping this baby. Well I guess she didn't believe me and I gave these parents a 1 week notice. I can't imagine having my baby that I haven't seen all day sleep a half hour after I got home and sleep until the next morning. I have tried for 4 months to get this baby on a schedule. When the other 2 children I have take their nap this child screams and screams. Just weird to me that a parent would want this for their child.


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LOL.
No, you have to be there to deal with the biting at the time it occurs. Telling a one year old, who at the moment isn't even thinking about biting a playmate, biting hurts has no impact. You have to do that WHEN they bite. And IMMEDIATELY after they bite not later that evening when mommy picks the baby up.
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A one year old biting is not my problem, if my child at one was biting at daycare, i would take responsibility of my child and the bad behavior and help to better it.
I answered this question down below by telling you what i would do to get started to help end the bad behavior.
Edited 2/10/2007 9:39 pm ET by xenozany
We have already clarifyed that you cannot control IMMEDIATE behavior of a baby when are you not around. What i said is you need to do is take responsibility for the issues with the provider and parent it.
Edited 2/10/2007 9:56 pm ET by xenozany
(((I have to disagree. I can see asking the parents to bring the swing with them in the morning but they shouldn't have to buy equipment for the dcp.)))
I don't care how they get that swing to me. They can buy one or bring their own. Makes no difference to me. The equipment isn't for me, it is for their dd.
(((After all, the dcp is the one pulling her hair out in the afternoons so it's in her best interest to do what it takes.)))
More fabrications?
(((Now, it would have been nice if the parents had offered but I don't think they are required to buy the dcp equipment she needs to do her job. If my dcp had been short a crib when my dd's started, should I have bought her one?)))
That is the point. I am not short a swing. They have a specific swing they use. I don't have that here.
(((The swing likely would have been used by more than just this baby and the dcp is the one with the problem.)))
No I am not the one with the problem. I most certainly would not have used this swing on another child. Neither of the other babies require a swing to sleep. One is too big for the swing.
(((Hence the dcp should have bought it. However the first thing to do would have been have the parents bring the swing for a few days to see if it really worked.)))
Hey, I can only ask. They didn't do it. I wonder why that is?
Did you actually read my post.
(((I would not be impressed with a dcp who claimed to match the parents schedules because it can't be done and I know it. Someone that ill informed would not be someone I'd want to hire. I expect my dcp to have a schedule and it can't be everyone's schedule. It has to be unique to her day care.)))
Why? So the child can have a totally different schedule on weekends and holidays, and vacations? What I do works out well for everyone involved. Why wouldn't you want someone to follow a schedule you had set for your child? Why is that a problem?
(((She can't serve lunch at six different times for six different kids. Kids need routine and every child on their own routine is no routine at day care.)))
Who said every provider keeps 6 kids?
(((The ONLY way I'd expect a care provider to match my schedule is if she were a nanny and the only kids she had were mine. A dcp simply cannot tell 4 different families she'll match their schedules. It won't work.)))
Are you the one preaching that you won't know if something can work unless you try it? Oh please. Again who said every dcp has 4 families to deal with?
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It would not be a problem for me, i would love IT!
Funny that she said she doesn't control her children yet I remembered her saying something earlier.
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It is my place to deal with how my child responds when I amd the one there getting the response. I cannot control my children from a distance. They don't have remote controls.
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