Why do some parents have to be so
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Why do some parents have to be so
| Tue, 02-06-2007 - 1:51pm |
ridiculously difficult. I am a SAHM that decided this year I would watch a couple of children to make some extra money. I have lurked on this board a lot and notice quite a few WOHM here. I just stopped watching this one baby that I just couldn't figure out the parents. The baby was a mess all the time. She was sick, had multiple respiratory problems, and cried all the time. Every time I called the parents to pick the baby up due to wheezing, or fever they seemed annoyed with me. Which I thought was odd. I have a strict policy that if the children have green noses they must go home. Also if the children have a fever they must go home and not return for 24 hours after the fever has broken or on antibiotics. Well I could never figure out why the baby cried so much until I was talking to the mother. Apparently they allow this baby to sit in a swing in the evenings and on weekends to get her to sleep. So the only time this baby naps during the day on the weekends is in a swing. Well that is not going to happen here. The baby is almost 20 lbs and I am not purchasing a swing for this child to sleep in. So according to the mother this child goes home around 5:30 or 6pm and sleeps from 6:30 until 6:30 the next day. No wonder...she won't nap here. So I told the mother that if I couldn't get the baby to nap during the day then I would no longer be keeping this baby. Well I guess she didn't believe me and I gave these parents a 1 week notice. I can't imagine having my baby that I haven't seen all day sleep a half hour after I got home and sleep until the next morning. I have tried for 4 months to get this baby on a schedule. When the other 2 children I have take their nap this child screams and screams. Just weird to me that a parent would want this for their child.


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That is one point I've been trying to get across and haven't been able to.
A young child is NOT going to understand hours later, what they did wrong.
And one of my biggest peeves of parenting today is expecting every child to develop at the same rate.
All children are individuals and develop on different schedules.
Some children will recognize a 'bad' behavior at say..18 months.
You're giving the under 1 set way too much credit in the wantng to please mom and dad.
Yes they wan to please but what they want is that immediated reaction they have pleased. It doesn't do any good to tell a 1 year old who bit a playmate she was bad or scold a 6 month old for not napping.
Until children are old enough to reason with there's nothing you can do other than what is done immediately after the offense. By the time mom picks a young child up, he's forgotten the offense all together. Any punishment then wouldn't even be associated with the offending action.
If a behavior happens both at home and at day care then yes, I can work with my baby/toddler at home. But if I never see the behavior, for whatever reason, I can't correct it. Waiting to address issues with very young children just doesn't work. Reactions have to be immediate in order for the child to understand which action it is that caused the reaction.
I was just going to post this.
My kids normal schedules at home aligned with their schedule at day care. What they do 5 days a week kind of trumps what they do 2 days a week.
No as an adult, I ofeten have a different schedule on the weekends and man do I pay for it Monday morning, lol. You'd think I would have learned from my kids. They had the sense to keep the same schedule 7 days a week.
I actually never said anything about the under 1 set. I said that parents of a 1 year old who is exhibiting bad behavior at DC can reinforce the discipline at daycare at home. I would not expect the dcp not to immediately discipline at the time of the incident, I just strongly believe you as the parent can say and do things that will help out. And I would never tell a child that they were bad or scold a 6 month old - where you got that from my post is beyond me.
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