Why do some parents have to be so

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Registered: 01-12-2007
Why do some parents have to be so
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Tue, 02-06-2007 - 1:51pm
ridiculously difficult. I am a SAHM that decided this year I would watch a couple of children to make some extra money. I have lurked on this board a lot and notice quite a few WOHM here. I just stopped watching this one baby that I just couldn't figure out the parents. The baby was a mess all the time. She was sick, had multiple respiratory problems, and cried all the time. Every time I called the parents to pick the baby up due to wheezing, or fever they seemed annoyed with me. Which I thought was odd. I have a strict policy that if the children have green noses they must go home. Also if the children have a fever they must go home and not return for 24 hours after the fever has broken or on antibiotics. Well I could never figure out why the baby cried so much until I was talking to the mother. Apparently they allow this baby to sit in a swing in the evenings and on weekends to get her to sleep. So the only time this baby naps during the day on the weekends is in a swing. Well that is not going to happen here. The baby is almost 20 lbs and I am not purchasing a swing for this child to sleep in. So according to the mother this child goes home around 5:30 or 6pm and sleeps from 6:30 until 6:30 the next day. No wonder...she won't nap here. So I told the mother that if I couldn't get the baby to nap during the day then I would no longer be keeping this baby. Well I guess she didn't believe me and I gave these parents a 1 week notice. I can't imagine having my baby that I haven't seen all day sleep a half hour after I got home and sleep until the next morning. I have tried for 4 months to get this baby on a schedule. When the other 2 children I have take their nap this child screams and screams. Just weird to me that a parent would want this for their child.

   

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Registered: 01-12-2007
Sun, 02-11-2007 - 9:08am
NO I don't think that is correct. I think that this can vary depending on the child. My 22 month old knew when mommy didn't like something that he/she did. They got it. However that may not be the case for other children.

   

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Sun, 02-11-2007 - 9:11am

Again you are convinently leaving out many many many things I have told you. The parents had the same problems I did. If it weren't for the swing the baby screamed. The only difference between them and me is they have the swing.

(((I am floored that in 4 months time this dcp could not figure out how to soothe this baby. She blames the swing but never bothered to prove that point. My guess is that would have taken away her excuse.)))

I am FLOORED that you continue to fabricate things about me. I know what soothes her. What I don't know is why mom and dad didn't bring theirs. Oh yeah, your excuse is dead wrong.

   

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Sun, 02-11-2007 - 9:14am

(((and you had that expectation of your children when they were infants?)))

I am not really sure what you are asking here. If my dcp had an issue with my baby at dc with sleeping I would do whatever it took to help that dcp out. Then again if my baby had issues with sleeping whatever I had at home that got the baby to sleep I would have already provided my dcp with from day one.

   

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Sun, 02-11-2007 - 9:17am

(((And you really think that a child who won't be 2 until April is going to understand all that several hours after the pushing event happened?)))

Where did she say several hours? What if the pushing happened 10 minutes before mom got there to pick him up? I wasn't talking about punishing the 2 yr old when mom gets there. However I think it would be wrong not to tell this child that mommy knows that he pushed children at school that day and that mommy doesn't want him to do that anymore.

(((Were you able to reason with your children at that age? I sure couldn't.)))

My children knew at that age if they did something when I wasn't around that I thought was wrong.

   

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Sun, 02-11-2007 - 9:31am
I never suggested punishment for a one year old hours after the incident. I agreed punishment should occur immediately (ie time out) and then late mommy/daddy saying something like "we don't hit. hitting hurts." The words may mean nothing at this point (ie with a one year old) but a 15 month old, 18 month old, 20 month old may start to understand and respond to mom/dad's expectations. Just a good habit to get into - ie reinforcing your expectations of school time behavior at home.
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Sun, 02-11-2007 - 10:37am
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Sun, 02-11-2007 - 11:00am

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I dont think she thinks it will. Although if the baby came to her sleeping in a swing why didn't the parents tell her this and provide her with that swing?

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Well I find this statement funny. You are saying babies can't tell the difference between night sleep and day sleep yet then say that knew the difference at a young age? Which is it?

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Are the children she is caring for your children?

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Sun, 02-11-2007 - 11:35am

More than likely in the next year or so. When DS has the language skills and cognitive ability to articulate events that happened in the past.


I never said the we don't discipline DS, but that his misbehavior needs to be addressed immediately and that reasoning with a toddler is pretty pointless. We started discipline when he started misbehaving, probably around 12 months.

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Sun, 02-11-2007 - 11:35am
Thank you!

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Sun, 02-11-2007 - 11:40am

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This is exactly what i have been saying.

For me that would be addressing the problem as the parent and help solve the problem with the provider, not just thinking, this is the providers problem not mine.




Edited 2/11/2007 12:14 pm ET by xenozany

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