Why do some parents have to be so

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Registered: 01-12-2007
Why do some parents have to be so
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Tue, 02-06-2007 - 1:51pm
ridiculously difficult. I am a SAHM that decided this year I would watch a couple of children to make some extra money. I have lurked on this board a lot and notice quite a few WOHM here. I just stopped watching this one baby that I just couldn't figure out the parents. The baby was a mess all the time. She was sick, had multiple respiratory problems, and cried all the time. Every time I called the parents to pick the baby up due to wheezing, or fever they seemed annoyed with me. Which I thought was odd. I have a strict policy that if the children have green noses they must go home. Also if the children have a fever they must go home and not return for 24 hours after the fever has broken or on antibiotics. Well I could never figure out why the baby cried so much until I was talking to the mother. Apparently they allow this baby to sit in a swing in the evenings and on weekends to get her to sleep. So the only time this baby naps during the day on the weekends is in a swing. Well that is not going to happen here. The baby is almost 20 lbs and I am not purchasing a swing for this child to sleep in. So according to the mother this child goes home around 5:30 or 6pm and sleeps from 6:30 until 6:30 the next day. No wonder...she won't nap here. So I told the mother that if I couldn't get the baby to nap during the day then I would no longer be keeping this baby. Well I guess she didn't believe me and I gave these parents a 1 week notice. I can't imagine having my baby that I haven't seen all day sleep a half hour after I got home and sleep until the next morning. I have tried for 4 months to get this baby on a schedule. When the other 2 children I have take their nap this child screams and screams. Just weird to me that a parent would want this for their child.

   

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Registered: 11-15-2006
Sun, 02-11-2007 - 10:42pm

I do not have to dream, You begin as the parent to teach the minute you speak to them and they hear you touch them care for them.

I would never in my right mind let a childcare provider deal with my childrens problem's alone. It is my responsibility as the parent no matter what age to direct them.

If YOu think they can learn or they cannot.

It is not the providers responsibility to deal alone with my chilren's issue's.

they are my kid's theie isuues no matter WHAT age IS my problem.




Edited 2/11/2007 10:49 pm ET by xenozany
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Registered: 11-15-2006
Sun, 02-11-2007 - 10:44pm

I have given more than one example do you just not hear me?

I know you have to deal with it immediatley you also have to deal with it befor during and AFTER!

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Registered: 01-13-2006
Sun, 02-11-2007 - 10:47pm
i have never said you couldnt talk to a child about not biting but they are not going to relate what you are saying to what happened earlier in the day, they dont remember it happening - unless your two year old was alot more astute than mine were at that age.
Jennie
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Registered: 11-15-2006
Sun, 02-11-2007 - 10:47pm

I have told you more than once what i would do to "start" Your just ignoring me, for the sake of a argument.

I think i even told you i would take the DAY OFF from work to observe at day care.

Listen to me, instead of ignoring me.

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Registered: 01-13-2006
Sun, 02-11-2007 - 10:50pm
i agree that talking to kids about not biting is important, but i dont buy that a two year old is going to relate the discussion to what happened at daycare earlier in the day. and they do not have the self-control or the skills to be able to recall the conversation the next time a situation occurs and they are compelled to bite.
Jennie
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Registered: 07-26-2006
Sun, 02-11-2007 - 10:50pm
I think that depends on the child. My SIL one of her son's Luke is a biter. When he went to preschool he was finally removed from preschool because he continually bit one child in the classroom. The child that he continually bit was the quietest smallest child in the classroom. My SIL had talks with him about not biting. She could say to him why did you bite today? He would say because. Nothing else. She would say who did you bite today. He would tell her every time who it was. So while some may not understand he certainly did. He knew who he bit every single day. Did he know why? Maybe not. But he knew what he did and who he did it to.
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Registered: 11-15-2006
Sun, 02-11-2007 - 10:54pm

you can teach a 1 year old not to bite, you can teach them biting is for food not ppl. Show em, do it, play with them, there many times is a reason they bite, fiqure it out, mom it is not the provider's problem.

It will click sonner then later, that is the goal right? that is being consistent. IMo

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Registered: 01-13-2006
Sun, 02-11-2007 - 10:56pm
but i doubt he was two years old when he was making all these connections.
Jennie
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Registered: 07-26-2006
Sun, 02-11-2007 - 10:59pm
He turned 2 in August and this happened in September and early October. He was kicked out of preschool in October.
iVillage Member
Registered: 01-13-2006
Sun, 02-11-2007 - 11:05pm
show em, do it - please tell me you are not advocating biting a one year old infant. and if not, which i really dont believe that you are, then how are you expecting them to connect you biting an apple to biting a person.
Jennie

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