Why do some parents have to be so

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-12-2007
Why do some parents have to be so
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Tue, 02-06-2007 - 1:51pm
ridiculously difficult. I am a SAHM that decided this year I would watch a couple of children to make some extra money. I have lurked on this board a lot and notice quite a few WOHM here. I just stopped watching this one baby that I just couldn't figure out the parents. The baby was a mess all the time. She was sick, had multiple respiratory problems, and cried all the time. Every time I called the parents to pick the baby up due to wheezing, or fever they seemed annoyed with me. Which I thought was odd. I have a strict policy that if the children have green noses they must go home. Also if the children have a fever they must go home and not return for 24 hours after the fever has broken or on antibiotics. Well I could never figure out why the baby cried so much until I was talking to the mother. Apparently they allow this baby to sit in a swing in the evenings and on weekends to get her to sleep. So the only time this baby naps during the day on the weekends is in a swing. Well that is not going to happen here. The baby is almost 20 lbs and I am not purchasing a swing for this child to sleep in. So according to the mother this child goes home around 5:30 or 6pm and sleeps from 6:30 until 6:30 the next day. No wonder...she won't nap here. So I told the mother that if I couldn't get the baby to nap during the day then I would no longer be keeping this baby. Well I guess she didn't believe me and I gave these parents a 1 week notice. I can't imagine having my baby that I haven't seen all day sleep a half hour after I got home and sleep until the next morning. I have tried for 4 months to get this baby on a schedule. When the other 2 children I have take their nap this child screams and screams. Just weird to me that a parent would want this for their child.

   

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iVillage Member
Registered: 01-13-2006
Sun, 02-11-2007 - 11:09pm
he is a really smart kid, none of my three were ever able to make those connections at two years old.
Jennie
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Registered: 01-04-2005
Mon, 02-12-2007 - 1:15am
UGGHHH! I would have also pulled my kid. i can't stand the constant praise/no criticism style of dealing with kids. I think you have to be honest with kids, good and bad, to build a healthy self esteem. How's the charter working out?
Photobucket
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Registered: 01-04-2005
Mon, 02-12-2007 - 1:18am
No I never said that a 14 month old understands right and wrong. What I said is that's when as a parent you start discussing it (obviously in simple terms) so as to start the conversation (even out of habit for you as the parent) and potentially it is picked up on sooner than later by the kid.
Photobucket
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Registered: 07-26-2006
Mon, 02-12-2007 - 7:38am
I dont know how smart he is. Then again I am not comparing him to just a couple of kids. I can only speak for her situation.
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Registered: 03-12-2005
Mon, 02-12-2007 - 7:38am
Since I haven't said that quality=degree, I am not sure why you are addressing this with me.I think quality has more to do with loving the children then having a degree personally.
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Registered: 01-15-2006
Mon, 02-12-2007 - 7:39am

ita. i'm going out on a limb here because i'm going to compare a decent dcp to a preschool..........my ds in at a preschool which starts taking children as young as 1. the time is 9-1:30. ds started going there at the age of 2..i was given an attendence sheet - what he did,how he did,trouble,etc. - everyday he was there. everything that was marked on that sheet,i went over with him. most of the times,it was kuddos,yay to the shapes he was already mastering etc. but there were times when i would talk to him about the yelling,about the hitting on the playground. why shouldn't i? a 2 year old can be talked to,as can a 1 year old and older.

look it up. there are ways to develop communication with a child as early as 1. if we shuffle it under the rug,just have the dcp *deal* with the day instead of ourselves,then we're really not laying a good foundation for parent involvement and communication. imo. and furthermore,it's a professional opinion that if one can afford a sahp,the most important time is the first 3 to 5 years. some don't agree with that. i do. vital communication,involvement and influence start young.

 

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Registered: 07-26-2006
Mon, 02-12-2007 - 7:40am
I dont think quality means you have to love the children. What about the dcp when they first start caring for children. They just met that child. Cant they give quality care without loving the child?
iVillage Member
Registered: 11-15-2006
Mon, 02-12-2007 - 7:50am

For the last and final time i was not specifically directing babies, if i was i would have stated babies. I was talking about teaching a child self control.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-15-2006
Mon, 02-12-2007 - 7:57am

Of course iam not advocating biting them. Iam advocating by teaching them thru play, toy's, food, role playing, reminding, them biting ppl is inappropriate.

My point is that it is not only the dcp problem to deal with, as it has been claimed, it is also mine problem to deal with and as a parent i am resonsible to help my child and the provider to end the bad behavior.

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Mon, 02-12-2007 - 8:10am

I think that dcp have to love children 'in general'. SOme people are baby people and kid people and pother are not. THe ones who are not shouldn't be dcp.

My son has a second grade teacher who has taught second grade for 24 years. She still has so much enthusiasm and love for her job- it is amazing. SHe had a natural affinity for that age and enjoys teaching. OTOH, a person who becomes a teacher for other reason and doesn't really connect with children would not be as good a teacher. IME, one can aquire the skills to take care of children and teach children, but there has to be something else -an affinity and love towards children.

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