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Why do some parents have to be so
| Tue, 02-06-2007 - 1:51pm |
ridiculously difficult. I am a SAHM that decided this year I would watch a couple of children to make some extra money. I have lurked on this board a lot and notice quite a few WOHM here. I just stopped watching this one baby that I just couldn't figure out the parents. The baby was a mess all the time. She was sick, had multiple respiratory problems, and cried all the time. Every time I called the parents to pick the baby up due to wheezing, or fever they seemed annoyed with me. Which I thought was odd. I have a strict policy that if the children have green noses they must go home. Also if the children have a fever they must go home and not return for 24 hours after the fever has broken or on antibiotics. Well I could never figure out why the baby cried so much until I was talking to the mother. Apparently they allow this baby to sit in a swing in the evenings and on weekends to get her to sleep. So the only time this baby naps during the day on the weekends is in a swing. Well that is not going to happen here. The baby is almost 20 lbs and I am not purchasing a swing for this child to sleep in. So according to the mother this child goes home around 5:30 or 6pm and sleeps from 6:30 until 6:30 the next day. No wonder...she won't nap here. So I told the mother that if I couldn't get the baby to nap during the day then I would no longer be keeping this baby. Well I guess she didn't believe me and I gave these parents a 1 week notice. I can't imagine having my baby that I haven't seen all day sleep a half hour after I got home and sleep until the next morning. I have tried for 4 months to get this baby on a schedule. When the other 2 children I have take their nap this child screams and screams. Just weird to me that a parent would want this for their child.


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This is actually a very normal variety of baby you're describing. My son was like that--asthmatic, wheezing all the time, and needing to be worn in a sling all day long.
If you can't manage this for whatever reason, you are right to "fire" the family. But don't blame it on bad parenting. Having a child like this is exhausting and they're probably still trying to figure out how to make it work.
BTW, it does get better with proper care. My son is now 10, still asthmatic, and a delightful person.
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Then please do tell me why you think this dcp should have to endure this changing of getting this child to sleep.
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You are aware that there are 7 days in a week correct? Those days called weekends are usually spent with the baby. She told you that the parents didnt go without the swing either on the weekends.
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So now we are back to dcp having to fix problems parents create? Why is that? Why should this dcp have to spend her money to fix this babies sleep issues? Her sleeping in a swing obviously wasnt an issue for the parents so why didnt they provide this item for their dcp? Not to mention, explain their reluctance to stop using the swing on the weekends and why they didnt provide a swing.
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This is only YOUR theory. Doesn't make it true. Bottom line here is we can only go on what she has said. Werent your babies at 6 weeks addicted to you nursing them to sleep and co sleeping? Sorry but the clear picture is is that the parents cant get that baby to sleep without the swing and it is just ridiculous to say that the dcp should have to figure it out when the childs own parents cant.
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She was able to get the baby to sleep if the parents provided the tools.
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You are right. What they do at home works. So why in the world wouldnt they provide that dcp with the items they use to get that baby to sleep? It is very simple.
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YOu are right. Consistency is the key. So wouldnt it be inconsistent to get the baby to sleep one way at home and another at dc? I think the problem here is that you see your own issues with your children here. I had no sleep issues with my children and they didnt go to dc. Therefore I may be a little more objective. Bottom line is that the parents miserably failed their dd by not providing this swing for her caregiver.
Yes, formula, diapers, special foods..those
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huh? all of that is laid out in the first two dozen posts--the first half dozen or so by the poster herself.
this type of diversion is pretty transparent, you know.
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consistancy does not require uniformity. again, i suspect that this is a matter of perspective: anyone who allowed even their children's father (or anyone else) to be involved in the handling if their infants knows that infants readily develop different expectations of different people. this cloistered understanding of infants isn't at all realistic.
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Wow, and some people wonder where others say I dont want daycare to raise my children. You are expecting a daycare employee to do something the parents are unable to do. That is amazing. Yes the parents have a problem with respect to the child sleeping. No swing no sleep.
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This is where I think you are wrong. The problem lies with the issue being that the baby needs a swing to sleep in. I cant imagine trying to go away for the weekend and having to lug that thing to keep my sanity.
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