Why do some parents have to be so

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-12-2007
Why do some parents have to be so
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Tue, 02-06-2007 - 1:51pm
ridiculously difficult. I am a SAHM that decided this year I would watch a couple of children to make some extra money. I have lurked on this board a lot and notice quite a few WOHM here. I just stopped watching this one baby that I just couldn't figure out the parents. The baby was a mess all the time. She was sick, had multiple respiratory problems, and cried all the time. Every time I called the parents to pick the baby up due to wheezing, or fever they seemed annoyed with me. Which I thought was odd. I have a strict policy that if the children have green noses they must go home. Also if the children have a fever they must go home and not return for 24 hours after the fever has broken or on antibiotics. Well I could never figure out why the baby cried so much until I was talking to the mother. Apparently they allow this baby to sit in a swing in the evenings and on weekends to get her to sleep. So the only time this baby naps during the day on the weekends is in a swing. Well that is not going to happen here. The baby is almost 20 lbs and I am not purchasing a swing for this child to sleep in. So according to the mother this child goes home around 5:30 or 6pm and sleeps from 6:30 until 6:30 the next day. No wonder...she won't nap here. So I told the mother that if I couldn't get the baby to nap during the day then I would no longer be keeping this baby. Well I guess she didn't believe me and I gave these parents a 1 week notice. I can't imagine having my baby that I haven't seen all day sleep a half hour after I got home and sleep until the next morning. I have tried for 4 months to get this baby on a schedule. When the other 2 children I have take their nap this child screams and screams. Just weird to me that a parent would want this for their child.

   

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iVillage Member
Registered: 07-26-2006
Mon, 02-12-2007 - 12:33pm
Read her post to me then read mine. It was a specific question to something she said.
iVillage Member
Registered: 07-26-2006
Mon, 02-12-2007 - 12:35pm
We arent talking in general terms here. If your child needs a specific item such as a humidifier or a certain brand of diapers that doesnt fall on the dcp to provide. Just like the swing. She has a swing. This baby needed a different type of swing. Not to obligation to provide it.
iVillage Member
Registered: 07-26-2006
Mon, 02-12-2007 - 12:36pm
Can you be more specific? I dont see anything about micromanaging other than she requested a swing and they didnt provide it.
iVillage Member
Registered: 07-26-2006
Mon, 02-12-2007 - 12:38pm
Really? So please enlightenment me on how it is consistent with respect to putting this baby in a swing for nap at home, and putting this baby flat on her back in a crib?
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-14-2003
Mon, 02-12-2007 - 12:40pm
...and to stop using the swing.
iVillage Member
Registered: 07-26-2006
Mon, 02-12-2007 - 12:44pm
I didnt see in any post where she told them to stop using the swing.
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-14-2003
Mon, 02-12-2007 - 12:46pm

'kay. five days a week, the child is is put in a crib to nap. consistently.

again, you are blinded by the fact that you have no idea how infants respond to multiple caregivers. you will have to take the word of those of us who involved our children's fathers and others in our children's infancy, and believe that we did not all have to ape one another excactly to make our infants happy and healthy.

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-14-2003
Mon, 02-12-2007 - 12:50pm

there are several, as well as several elaborating on and rationalizing her doing so.

by the by, are you tasting any of the irony? it seems to me that you are saying the same thing, in your exchange with clw. the parents should be following the dcps lead--not using the swing, not nursing the child to sleep, etc.--rather than to each their own. my way or the highway isn't any healthier coming from a dcp than from a spouse.

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-26-2006
Mon, 02-12-2007 - 1:24pm

<<<'kay. five days a week, the child is is put in a crib to nap. consistently.>>>

And 7 days a week she is put in a swing to sleep. Hmmm.

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Why would you think that?

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Hey I am not the one that said consistency. Heres another shock for you. My children's father is actively involved in their care. Amazing isnt it.

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-26-2006
Mon, 02-12-2007 - 1:26pm

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Ok again i will ask. WHERE? I have yet to see a post as to what you are describing.

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Um no I didn't. Can you please elaborate how you are drawing these conclusions?

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