I don't mean why do you work or sah.
I have thought about my children's personalities and definitely related it to whether they were similar to me or my dh.
“Clearly," said Arthur,"you're an idiot- but you're our kind of idiot. Come on.” ― Markus Zusak, The Book Thief
Both of my children twirl their hair when they are thinking, something I don't do, but my mother does.
The only way I have ever compared my kids' personalities to Jim or me is how it affects how I relate to them.
The truth may be out there but lies are in your head. Terry Pratchett