Why do you do what you do?

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Why do you do what you do?
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Tue, 03-01-2011 - 5:45am

I don't mean why do you work or sah.

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Tue, 03-22-2011 - 8:39am

I don't think that is always the case, though. At the same time, I have heard it used as a reason for religious school. Specifically, in one case, that the parents liked it because there were no divorced parents at the school. They preferred not to have their kids exposed to children of divorced parents, because this would interfere with the values they wanted to impose, and because they were convinced that children of divorce were more likely to use drugs and be promiscuous etc, and thus more likely to corrupt their kids.

It can be a fine line, I think. I have deselected schools because I did not like the prevailing attitudes and mores in the school population. It was never my main consideration, but it was a consideration. I also imagine that most parents, if they have a choice, would avoid putting their kids in schools with a known drug or violence problem, for example. So although I largely agree with you, I also think there is a lot of grey in this area.

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Tue, 03-22-2011 - 8:57am

Huh.





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Registered: 04-22-2005
Tue, 03-22-2011 - 9:05am

<< I also imagine that most parents, if they have a choice, would avoid putting their kids in schools with a known drug or violence problem, for example. >>

Oh those poor, unsocialized souls!





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Tue, 03-22-2011 - 9:13am

I don't think private school, or homeschooled, means unsocialized.

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Tue, 03-22-2011 - 9:17am

while i agree that there are parents who send their kids to parochial schools for the bubble, i.e.

 

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Tue, 03-22-2011 - 10:01am

Well, as I said, it can be a fine line. For example, we deselected one of the fancy private schools in favor of the local public one (for HS). There was a drug problem in both schools, but my feeling was that rich kids+drugs was worse than poor kids+drugs, simply because the poor kids mostly had to stick to pot and not all that much of it. This was not the main reason for choosing as we did, but it was one of the considerations.

In hindsight, the main advantage of dd's HS was, in fact, the socialization she got there. The school had kids from all social and economic levels and from all areas of the city. It was a very good experience for her, and forced her many times to be clear about who and what she was. It is also taught her a great deal of tolerance and understanding and saved her from the severe bubble effect present in most of the private HSs here.

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Tue, 03-22-2011 - 10:04am

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Tue, 03-22-2011 - 10:16am
Perhaps this is where there is confusion... The parents that I know, who use private school, and/or homeschool, do it b/c it's the best educational choice for their kids, not to limit their children's exposure to *different* people. So, when these conversations come up, that's not usually something that is even on my radar as being an issue. Personally, we homeschooled for a season, b/c we had a child that simply wasn't ready for the social aspect of school, private or public. When he was ready, he went to school.
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Tue, 03-22-2011 - 10:52am

I agree.





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Tue, 03-22-2011 - 11:11am
I pretty much agree. But it's all a matter of degree. Many parents who choose public schools want to send their kids to the "best" schools, which often translates to the schools with the highest socioeconomics. My sil is aghast that we sent our kids to a diverse city elementary school instead of the top-rated suburban schools in her district. I wouldn't choose private school or homeschooling for my own kids, partly for the reasons you mention, but I also wouldn't choose the (public) BMW school my sil's kids went to.

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