Why do "you" even care if I ......

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Why do "you" even care if I ......
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Wed, 02-25-2009 - 11:10pm

(You general you) am even going back to work after my toddler goes to school?


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Mon, 03-23-2009 - 1:01pm
Pass those grandbabies my way; I'll change them :)

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Mon, 03-23-2009 - 1:07pm

>>Based on my own experience, I have to say that I'm not particularly concerned with dcp's having some massive impact on the children I plan to have some day.<<

I'm not concerned about either.

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Mon, 03-23-2009 - 1:11pm
I don't know what you have said a gazillion times, that is why I asked. I don't care what anyone does either, but I can't seem to discuss my choices either.
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Mon, 03-23-2009 - 1:13pm

Of course you can -- but there's a difference b/w saying "hey this is what I did for my family and my family only based on our situation it was best" and phrasing it in such a way that insuates other moms got it wrong somehow...


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Mon, 03-23-2009 - 1:20pm

SES is a more complicated equation than just income or profession.

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Mon, 03-23-2009 - 1:26pm

>>Of course you can -- but there's a difference b/w saying "hey this is what I did for my family and my family only based on our situation it was best" and phrasing it in such a way that insuates other moms got it wrong somehow... <<

Yes, but after how many posts and explanations, why I am still addressing this?

And really, would it have made a difference is I said, "hey, I thought it was best if I raised our children?" And does the above really have to be said in each and every reply? I said, "I feel" because it was personal as to how I felt.

I completely understand some of you took this statement one ways, several didn't. :)

If a friend came to you battling this decisions and said they felt they would be allowing someone else to raise their children, would you argue with them or ask them why they felt that way? If that friend did feel that way, would you try to convince them they shouldn't? Or would you think, if this is how she feels, maybe she shouldn't place her dd in day care?




Edited 3/23/2009 1:34 pm ET by mom_knitcrazy
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Mon, 03-23-2009 - 1:28pm

"I think daycare providers should be paid like major league baseball players -- they are that important."


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Mon, 03-23-2009 - 1:35pm

I think that parents can be just as valuable to their children but I do not see SAHPs being more valuable than WOHPs.

But any value that a parent has would never be able to be translated into money amounts because taking care of your own family is a responsibility not a job you are paid to do.

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Mon, 03-23-2009 - 1:38pm
Once DD3 was potty trained I was so glad that I never had to chance another diaper again. Been doing pretty good at it. In the last 17 plus years I have only changed one diaper.

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