Why do "you" even care if I ......

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Why do "you" even care if I ......
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Wed, 02-25-2009 - 11:10pm

(You general you) am even going back to work after my toddler goes to school?


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Registered: 02-05-2009
Mon, 03-23-2009 - 1:39pm

Hyperbole. Exaggeration. Grasping at straws to make a point that doesn't exist.


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Show me a post where I put down sahps. Show me a post where I put down DCPs and nannies.

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Registered: 12-31-2008
Mon, 03-23-2009 - 1:47pm

>>Show me a post where I put down sahps. Show me a post where I put down DCPs and nannies.<<

I certainly will when someone shows me a post where I put down wohp.

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Registered: 12-07-2003
Mon, 03-23-2009 - 1:49pm

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If you said, "I thought it was best if I raised our children," people would still be annoyed. That still implies that in order to raise children, one must stay at home with them. A better way to phrase it would be "I wanted to stay at home while raising my children."

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Registered: 12-31-2008
Mon, 03-23-2009 - 1:55pm

>>I think that parents can be just as valuable to their children but I do not see SAHPs being more valuable than WOHPs. <<

I agree, I think they can be too. I would never generalize about either because I do not feel work status, in general, has anything to do with being a good parent. For me, however, working outside of the home never made sense .. for many reasons, one is I felt someone else would be raising my children. This is how I felt, for me and my family, at that point in my life. I also knew many working moms then that didn't feel that way and we just respected the difference. This had nothing to do with relating to each other because truthfully, we just didn't know how the other felt and respected that. This was some 15 years ago though. Since then my life has changed and I can see much value in finding a job outside of the home.

>>But any value that a parent has would never be able to be translated into money amounts because taking care of your own family is a responsibility not a job you are paid to do.<<

I am not sure I understand this.

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Registered: 11-04-2008
Mon, 03-23-2009 - 1:57pm
Yes definitely. If you look in the elementary schools, that's where you will find the sahms volunteering (in my area). By high school many of the sahms are working again. Or they just could be volunteering in places other than school. Just because Cindy personally does not see sahms volunteering in the one high school she works in--that is hardly enough data to declare that sahms do not volunteer very much.
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Registered: 12-07-2003
Mon, 03-23-2009 - 1:58pm
I've been reading a lot of blogs by women who are staying at home to seriously reduce their family's carbon footprint.
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Registered: 06-27-1998
Mon, 03-23-2009 - 2:04pm

I find it interesting that somehow raising and caring for a child is based only on the time a child could possibly spend in daycare.

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Registered: 12-31-2008
Mon, 03-23-2009 - 2:04pm

>>That still implies that in order to raise children, one must stay at home with them. A better way to phrase it would be "I wanted to stay at home while raising my children."<<

This does make sense. However, I see way too many posts not worded so carefully.

I agree my wording could have been better.

I try not to make implications, but we all do. I am not excluding myself, I just see a lot finger pointing, by ppl who behave do the same thing. (not necessarily you) I would have reacted differently as well, if just one person, other then those who agreed, said, "oh we all do this from time to time". kwim?? But, do you realize I am still telling ppl what I meant? Enough already, can we move on? :)

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Registered: 02-22-2007
Mon, 03-23-2009 - 2:05pm

Hmmm. On the surface, I see what you are saying, but I would also wonder what else was going on with those families.

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Mon, 03-23-2009 - 2:06pm

Why on earth would one limit it to only the sahp?

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