Why do "you" even care if I ......

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Registered: 07-19-2006
Why do "you" even care if I ......
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Wed, 02-25-2009 - 11:10pm

(You general you) am even going back to work after my toddler goes to school?


I am a sahm with

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iVillage Member
Registered: 08-25-2008
Mon, 03-23-2009 - 10:14pm

It will be years before I've turned every topic into an investigation and I'll always be able to add depth to the previous years lessons.

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-25-2008
Mon, 03-23-2009 - 10:16pm
That is not the case here.
iVillage Member
Registered: 08-25-2008
Mon, 03-23-2009 - 10:25pm

Fudge?

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-31-2008
Mon, 03-23-2009 - 10:28pm

I wasn't talking about her. lol I haven't replied to her and oh, several hundred posts.

Ya know, I find this post kind of insulting as well. There are so many dang rules on this board, who could keep up? There's so many ppl involved with their various rules, I think maybe you guys need to keep it straight.

And really, what does this mean? >>"he fee-fees of SAHMs who don't bother to read the board archives and learn a bit about the players here, including the extremists in residence, aren't worth that kind of time. I mean, if Y'ALL can't be bothered, why should we?"<<

Is this meant as a stab or a welcome post? lol I'm a "player" now so, maybe you should take a bit of time to get to know me before "ya all" jump to conclusions? I never heard of such a thing.

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Mon, 03-23-2009 - 10:36pm

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I guess my point is that you have countered more than one post with is that how you look and/or feel about daycare providers when many of the posters you are going back and forth with haven't used daycare providers in years either, it's a

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Registered: 08-25-2008
Mon, 03-23-2009 - 10:36pm

I have had one person make the comment "Couldn't cut it in the real world?".

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-25-2008
Mon, 03-23-2009 - 10:39pm
Why would a SAHP be more valuable to a child than a WOHP and a dcp?
iVillage Member
Registered: 08-25-2008
Mon, 03-23-2009 - 10:40pm
Why is saying that a WOHP and a DCP are the equivalent to a SAHP to a child offensive?
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Registered: 12-31-2008
Mon, 03-23-2009 - 11:01pm

>>I guess my point is that you have countered more than one post with is that how you look and/or feel about daycare providers when many of the posters you are going back and forth with haven't used daycare providers in years either, it's a small window of time in a child's life.<<

Ok, I am missing something here. Maybe I am not reading this correctly. I am countering ppl who haven't used day care in years. So, why then are they posting an opposing view to me?

I am seeing your point here. Plus, I have no idea what ppl have experience unless they tell me. I guess ultimately, I feel if it's my responsibility to be clear, that applies to everyone.

>>So....what exactly is the issue with having people influence a child and/or help to raise them?<<

This is what I mean. I have answered this, oh gosh, more times then you know. Why is the question still being asked?

I NEVER had an issue with it. Lok at this way, I come on and post. A few minutes later, 4 more posts in my inbox. Ok, so, I clarify, now a few minutes later, I have 8, maybe even 9 or 10 replies, all veering off into opposite directions based on something I never said. On top of that, a few fly in telling me I am bashing WOHMS!
Now I have a post telling me I should read through thousands and thousands of posts in the archives so, I get to know the ppl here, YET, back up a bit here, ppl make comments on one sentence I made without even bothering to go back a few posts to see the context it was said in.
So, here I am, answering the same question again. Would you not feel there was a double standard here?

To answer you, I NEVER had an issue with ppl using day care or providers influencing the child. If ppl had gone back one post, they would have realized the person was stating the providers don't raise or influence the child. So, I countered with saying, "how could that be". Next thing I know, dozens of ppl are asking me what is wrong with that and actually saying things like they feel sorry for my children because they weren't exposed to outside influences. LOL And I am mean I am laughing at this point because in the end, they are actually agreeing with me, the day care provider does influence the child and "helps" raise the child.

Just recently I stated I felt teachers had influenced my children and help raise them. So again, why I am still being asked why I said this is beyond me. I never said. :D

>>I have never thought as a parent (along with dh) that we would provide 100% of everything our child needs...I want them to have relationships and be influenced by others....I guess I don't see what the issue is here....at all.<<

I don't know either. You would have to ask the ppl who challenged me. I requested several times someone show me where I said this and no one did. They couldn't because I never said it.

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-19-2006
Mon, 03-23-2009 - 11:26pm

Never mind, we can go on and on and just disagree over and over.


I believe everybody has the right to choose what works best for themselves and their families.


I do not think they should be judge b/c they chose differently that others would.


"Are you telling me you are incapable of earning more than you'd pay a day care provider?

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