Why do "you" even care if I ......

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Why do "you" even care if I ......
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Wed, 02-25-2009 - 11:10pm

(You general you) am even going back to work after my toddler goes to school?


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Mon, 03-23-2009 - 11:42pm

We all know the story you have explained it out to all of us the last go around.

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Registered: 02-24-2009
Tue, 03-24-2009 - 2:35am
I would ask why she felt that way. I would ask her if she ever planned to let anyone else be alone with her kids. I would ask her how she felt about the kids going to school one day. I would try to make her see that she was being unreasonable, yes.
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Registered: 11-08-2006
Tue, 03-24-2009 - 5:44am

yes, I'm union. Yes we're paid well and protected. the CT CEA (CT Education Association) is a very strong teacher's union, but NO ONE here puts us under any blue collar label.

The problem with not being in the union (because yes, you can opt out) is that you still have to pay 75% of the union fees because those are teacher dues. It seems silly to most of us to pay in that much and not get the benefit of the union behind us. CT teachers have in many, many recent years been considered and treated as professionals.

The union for teachers is important because districts are ALWAYS looking to cut staff, chop down our contract in terms of money or benefits, etc.

As for teachers being a "dime a dozen" -- I do think that new teachers are. However, for those of us that have some seniority (5-10 years) or even more seniority (10-25 years), we are very hard to replace. If they are good teachers, they bring with them a whole host of skills and knowledge that can't be replaced as easily as you think. Sure, they can find a body to fill my space. They do it every day that I'm not there. BUT, they can't find someone to replace what "I" do, what "I" bring to the classroom -- both on a personal and professional level.

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Tue, 03-24-2009 - 5:45am
I don't do welcome posts. This isn't a support board and I'm not a CM or a CL.

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Tue, 03-24-2009 - 5:48am
Your disdain and contempt for SAHMs is legendary. If you don't know what's wrong with insulting people based on their work status, I can't help you.

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"I am not wanting to bash but our homes are so different, here we cherish Jesus and cleanliness and at 's they watch porn and play with guns, what can we do?" --The BioMom/Stepmom Debate in a nutshell, as illustrated by the brilliance that is shorto

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Registered: 12-31-2008
Tue, 03-24-2009 - 5:49am

>>I would ask why she felt that way. I would ask her if she ever planned to let anyone else be alone with her kids. I would ask her how she felt about the kids going to school one day<<

Yep, but do see anyone doing that here for me? Oh yes, and when we reached the part I did give answers, all I got back was snide remarks. Someone even told me I only raise my children until they were 5. But, this is the gist of the problem with this topic, in general. There's no respect for someone who disagrees with you.

>>I would try to make her see that she was being unreasonable, yes.<<

Oh, nice. Ya know, I don't judge my friends if they have a different view. I respect our differences.

Also, you keep on proving my point. This is a nice little twist that doesn't come right out and say it, but you are calling me unreasonable. You are insulting me and just about everyone who agreed with me. Somehow, that seems ok with certain ppl here.

Do you think this does anything to help me understand the opposing view? Nope, the statement is bitter and hateful. Do you think I am really going to care next time you misread my posts? LOL Not that you care, obviously, but you do make me see, the choices I made were the right choices. Thanks for that.

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Registered: 12-31-2008
Tue, 03-24-2009 - 6:08am

Can I ask why your attitude is so hostile toward me?


That's a great link, can you show me where Ivillage states this as well because anywhere I've gone here, has welcomed ppl to jump right in.


FYI, I did read this board for quite a while. No one, in there right mind is going to read through thousands of posts and sorry, in a debate, it's usually pertinent you state your views.


I actually took the time to look up the rules at the site I am posting at.


http://www.ivillage.com/boards/0,,b46m-2,00.html


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Hmm, I just don't see where they tell ppl to lurk and read through the archives before posting. Oh, and what's that about welcoming ppl. I don't see a distinction between a support board and a debate board. I do see a statement concerning respect. So, maybe if you don't care for my posts, you could hit the ignore button.

btw, please don't twist my statements. I said nothing of a welcome post. Since I am a "player" now, it would be wise to take your own advice and know what the person is talking about before you jumo in.


Edited 3/24/2009 6:10 am ET by mom_knitcrazy


Edited 3/24/2009 6:17 am ET by mom_knitcrazy
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Registered: 01-15-2006
Tue, 03-24-2009 - 6:13am

omg......it was a joke.


i don't think it's wise to stay on this track of what's a better,more respected profession over another.

 

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Registered: 01-15-2006
Tue, 03-24-2009 - 6:51am

but contributing to society isn't only about WOH.

 

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Registered: 07-17-2007
Tue, 03-24-2009 - 7:39am
Amen.

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