Why do "you" even care if I ......

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Registered: 07-19-2006
Why do "you" even care if I ......
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Wed, 02-25-2009 - 11:10pm

(You general you) am even going back to work after my toddler goes to school?


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Registered: 08-25-2008
Wed, 03-25-2009 - 6:09am

No, the problem is I'm used to being respected and struggling with the fact I no longer am beause of a job change.

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Registered: 12-31-2008
Wed, 03-25-2009 - 6:10am

I have a feeling they know what they can get away with and how to word things just so. It's also clear what they imply should be overlooked, but what they think you implied will be ripped apart.


Many have been around for years and I can only guess they are now bored with the actual discussion and need to find some way to keep themselves occupied.


Passive aggressive behavior is

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Registered: 03-06-2009
Wed, 03-25-2009 - 6:12am

no one deserves 'dis' respect -- but respect has to be earned -- no matter how may credentials on a resume it's the person and the performance and the test of time that earn one respect -- you can't bounce into any new arena and expect the immediate respect of people who have been doing it for years without showing them yo uhave the right stuff and you're worthy of that respect. Everyone deserves basic human decency and kindness but in ANY new arena you have to prove yourself --

and honestly I"d be more impressed with a teacher that was up and excited to be with my kids every day and ready to open new doors for them and help them thrive than one who kept telling me about 20 years of basically irrelevant job experience... yeah it's in science...great...so you know the subject but you have to now show me you know how to teach it.

it probably is a good thing you're going back to engineering.

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Registered: 12-31-2008
Wed, 03-25-2009 - 6:17am

>>no one deserves 'dis' respect -- but respect has to be earned -- no matter how may credentials on a resume it's the person and the performance and the test of time that earn one respect<<


I understand you aren't talking to me, but I am going to disagree with this anyway. Everyone deserves to be treated with respect unless they have done something to prove otherwise.

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Registered: 01-15-2006
Wed, 03-25-2009 - 6:51am

jumping in to say i agree.


i used to believe the old,tired respect must be earned thing until i used it once.

 

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Registered: 01-15-2006
Wed, 03-25-2009 - 6:57am

mom34101 didn't say you deserved disrespect.

 

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-22-2000
Wed, 03-25-2009 - 7:50am
We can't say anything we want.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-06-2009
Wed, 03-25-2009 - 9:17am

I think in the professional arena your bank of respect grows as you prove yourself -- you can't jump into a new profession and expect that everyoen is going to instantly be respectful and impressed b/c of your twenty year resume in another profession -- I see it in nonprofits all the time -- someome from the corporate arena will decide they want to "do good' and move into the nonprofit world and expects everyone to be oh so grateful -- honestly? I'm more impressed by the volunteer who's been coming in every week to do mailings for me or the young go getter out of college who plunges into nonprofit work knowing the pay stinks but the rewards are huge than I am the corporate fugitive who glides in on a resume that has no bearing on the work we do and expects the nonprofit world to throw up their arms and shout "hurray we're saved"


you earn respect in the workplace by demonstrating results.

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Registered: 03-11-2009
Wed, 03-25-2009 - 10:04am
Even this regular non-bible reader can see that, that was snippy.
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Registered: 03-11-2009
Wed, 03-25-2009 - 10:05am
Good for you.
Maybe if posters would actually post from their own ideas and not follow everyone else's, it would be a nice debate. Too many followers :)

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