Why does MIL have to hide behind lies

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Why does MIL have to hide behind lies
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Sun, 05-05-2013 - 10:38am

Ugh, Another stupid element about her I find so strange!  We got tough news the other night when the doctor told us DD2 has type 1 diabetes, she is 13.  Genetics plays a big role here and I had told the doctor that I think a cousin once removed or two on my dad's side might have had it but DH told me his brother has diabetes which was a total surprise b/c I didn't know...  So he calls his mom for advice, right away she gets on the defense and says brother doesn't have it anymore then offers all these thoughts that this is about her diet which is a big fat myth!! Furthermore, There is no cure for diabetes and while his brother might have it under control he isn't cured from it.  This kind of stuff dismays both DH and I - I mean wouldn't it be nicer and more supportive to hear, Yes, your brother has this and he has learned to manage it and so will you...  Instead she fires out all this ignorance.  And she's trucked in comments like this before with other family, I don't know if his sister's DD was ever officially diagnosed ADD but she's often talked about that condition with blames on the father and his side for it.  I could go on but I hope you get the picture here.. 

Lies get you nowhere and I just don't understand the rationales behind it! 

Thanks for reading.

 

 

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Tue, 05-07-2013 - 1:38pm

I'm just getting around to seeing this, and want to offer whatever support you might need as well.  I've been insulin-dependent for 20 years and have been using a pump for the past 6.  

My main piece of advice is for your dd to be extra, extra vigilant about blood sugars when she's sick, even if it is just sniffles or something that seems like it should be totally unrelated to the diabetes.  Nothing is unrelated, and being extra careful can prevent a seemingly harmless malady from ballooning into something bigger.  

I too wish that your MIL could be more supportive.  Sounds like she's afraid and hiding her fear behind denial.  Yeah, I know...armchair psychiatrists are all around...   :)

Take care!


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Mon, 05-06-2013 - 4:15pm

I'm sorry to hear about your dd, I hope her condition is stablized soon.  As for your mil, maybe it's her only way of coping with news about her love ones, I hope she can become more supportive.

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Mon, 05-06-2013 - 2:16pm

I'm sorry about your dd's diagnosis and that your MIL couldn't be more supportive.  It sounds like she almost takes it personally that your BIL was diagnosed, or that she feels blame over it?  My dad has Type 1, was diagnosed later in life and is on insulin.  He does the monitoring and the shots of insulin as well, it's really caused him to pay more attention to his diet and exercise.  It forced him to live a healthier life.  

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Mon, 05-06-2013 - 1:45pm

I'm sorry about your dd's diagnosis and that she has to deal with this.  I hope it is managed easily. 

“Clearly," said Arthur,"you're an idiot- but you're our kind of idiot. Come on.” 
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Mon, 05-06-2013 - 5:09am

Anything you need, just ask.

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Mon, 05-06-2013 - 3:43am
You guys are nice, Thank you. DD can't wait to start the pump (there's an insulin pen too?) but per doctor's orders we have to start with the basic stuff first, the syringe, calculating how much insulin she is going to need by hand. It's nice to hear how others live through this and other tips so I may take you up on that hammer, Thanks.

 


 


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Sun, 05-05-2013 - 11:25pm

I'm sorry to hear about your dd.  I've never mentioned it here, but John developed it a few years ago.  He went through a number of different meds, but eventually became insulin dependent and this past winter went on an insulin pump. (and with the pump his sugars have been very well controlled--his last A1C was a 6.5.

I hope your dd is able to get stabilized and on whatever meds will control her sugars well.

To the extent I can be of help (I'm certainly willing to ask John and DIL any questions you might have), please let me know.

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Sun, 05-05-2013 - 1:00pm
No problem (about the wrong board), but I am really sorry that your kid has to deal with this.
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Sun, 05-05-2013 - 11:41am

I know you said this was intended for another board, but I just wanted to say I'm sorry to hear your daughter has diabetes. Hopefully, you guys will be able to get it under control easily. And I'm sorry your MIL is being so difficult. <3

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Sun, 05-05-2013 - 10:43am

Sorry, Lol, This discussion was intended for another board on ivillage!