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Why does some people think women at home
| Sat, 06-07-2003 - 1:02am |
should do it all? I hear this and think why should a woman at home do every thing? Shouldn't it be whatever works? Shouldn't it be whatever floats the boat of the married couple? Confused on this thinking.
If you are home do you do it all? How does your DH or SO feel?
WOH do you do it all or do you split it? Do you do more or less since you WOH?
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"scrub my toilets, change the sheets" and if asked, would
"wash my car,wash my clothes, pick up the dog poop"
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Wow, really? When I was a nanny I certainly cleaned up after the kids (meals & crafts, etc.) & tried to keep the house straightened (as much as you can with two little "hell-raisin'" boys)...but I never did any major house cleaning. I wouldn't have had the time or the ability! The boys kept me on-the-go & what would I do with the boys if I was knee deep in laundry or dog doo-doo?
Frankly, those sound like tasks better relegated to a housekeeper.
Just curious, do you pay more for your nanny's added services than a regular nanny?
But the price is paid over time. If you cut back on your hours, go PT, take an "easier" job, or simply SAH, you stand to lose much of your overall earning potential overtime.
Seems ironic to me that in a world where parenting is considered to be a noble cause that one could be so penalized for it.
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It's called coming to the best decision together. Which item is more important? Which can wait until next payday? This payday we'll get this and next payday we'll get the other. Not so different then what goes on in a dual income family. I don't know anyone that can always buy what they want when they want it.
If the WOH parent thought they owed the income then I guess they could take the upperhand and there may be some resentment. But those are control issues of that individual.
Question for you:
In a dual income family what happens when both want to buy something and there is only enough money to afford one? Who wins?
But I have one friend, and she can't be the only one, whose DH said, "We can't decide on what new car to buy. I'm frustrated that we can't come to a decision so as a tie-breaker, since I'm the wage earner, I'm making the decision." THAT isn't going to happen in our household!
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