Why does some people think women at home
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Why does some people think women at home
| Sat, 06-07-2003 - 1:02am |
should do it all? I hear this and think why should a woman at home do every thing? Shouldn't it be whatever works? Shouldn't it be whatever floats the boat of the married couple? Confused on this thinking.
If you are home do you do it all? How does your DH or SO feel?
WOH do you do it all or do you split it? Do you do more or less since you WOH?
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I can certainly understand why they say money issues cause divorce.
"Why wouldn't he have altered his work/career plans to suit your career dreams and the kids' needs?" My career dream was to be a teacher, which I was for ten years....my goal was then to be home with my children when we had them. I am. I also wanted the option of returning to work if need be when the children were in school. I do. We have managed to meet our goals in life by working together.
"Why does he just get to have his pick of job and career, and you'll mould your career, time, etc. around what he does. No career or job is set in stone like that. " He picked his career much like I "picked" mine. It's what we wanted to do. If I still wanted to teach after having children I could've continued...but that would've meant using a nanny etc and I wasn't comfortable with that. Also my career affords me the luxury of taking time off....his doesn't.
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What if your career goal wasn't something convenient/conducive to family life like teaching?
Who would "win" then? Isn't it possible he could be convinced to scale back his aspirations to accomodate your aspirations? Or is he just not attracted to the high powered mega hours career woman in general?
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