Why does some people think women at home
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Why does some people think women at home
| Sat, 06-07-2003 - 1:02am |
should do it all? I hear this and think why should a woman at home do every thing? Shouldn't it be whatever works? Shouldn't it be whatever floats the boat of the married couple? Confused on this thinking.
If you are home do you do it all? How does your DH or SO feel?
WOH do you do it all or do you split it? Do you do more or less since you WOH?
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Cindy, you don't get to decide what is correct time management in anybody's house but your own. You do know that don't you?
4000 SQ FT home
Vac 2-3X all carpeting (including moving out furniture away from walls so it can be cleaned underneath)
Scrub (on hands and knees) tile (long hall way, 4 bathrooms, l laundry room)
Change sheets 2x wkly, 3 bedrooms
Special care (hands and knees action) for hardwood floors (huge kitchen, dining rm, entrance foyer)
Move, clean thoroughly countertops huge kitchen counter area 2x weekly
Clean oven, microwave, convection ovens (wiping out, special cleansers as required)
Dust 2x wk
Stand up and dust above windows (above window treatments), any high areas, lighting fixtures
Clean window seals, all baseboards, entire house
Clean windows, glass doors (interior and exterior)
Clean interior doors
Scrub (on hands and knees, heavy duty task) all 4 bathrooms, including whirlpool tubs, showers 2x weekly
Cook from scratch meal (not excluding breads, desserts) every day
7-8 loads laundry per week
Clean, scrub laundry room and remember the garage needs weekly attention to declutter, be swept, etc
Grocery shopping - 2x wk
Care for flower beds, mowing that takes 1 1/2 hrs per wk
Plus 2 children, tball, swim, library story time, taking them to the park, etc.
This is a bit of effort but accomplished weekly.
Then you've got my MIL who even though it is just her and my FIL she still cleans, scrubs like this every day plus the woman cans, freezes foods and cooks delicious meals every day and every night and well, I just drool over thinking what kind of desserts she put together this week alone (it is like a bakery!)
My mother and grandmother have always been this way also. Clean, clean, clean. My husband and I get it honest from our childhood and background.
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Dj
"Now when I need help, I look in the mirror" ~Kanye West~
Duh yourself, you make no sense. It IS all about the money to you Cyndi.
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Dj
"Now when I need help, I look in the mirror" ~Kanye West~
Why would you assume that I am not using my time wisely and need to take a time management class? Thats pretty silly.
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Dj
"Now when I need help, I look in the mirror" ~Kanye West~
I just couldn't live that way, that everything is about money, money, money, money and more money. I don't want to be equal if it is a money issue. Blech!
That is so much to have to put up with on a weekly (yes, Cindy, weekly) basis. It is part of his job committment, a requirement of his position as VP.
"And I do much more than just *fill my time*."
Ditto for me as well!
"Maybe there isnt that much work to do in YOUR home. Maybe you dont care how your house looks or your lawn."
This is what Im getting from what she is saying (and her previous posts on how she cleans which would never get by me or my husband in our home, we are just too particular about cleanliness and appearances of our home). The lawn has to be perfectly manicured no matter what it takes the standards are high for that here.
"Maybe you dont have an extensive vegetable and flower garden, 5 animals, 2 kids, 3 cars and a motorhome to upkeep, maybe you dont do any basic household maintenance."
Ditto. We have flower gardens (my husband loves flowers, hanging baskets, anything like that to spruce up the lawn and landscape). We have a car, truck and the company suv we are responsible for, 2 kids, and a dog. Household maintenance, oh my, we are always doing something whether it is replacing/repairing or cosmeticly. Never ending job in this home.
"Maybe you dont take care of all the financial concerns, investments, bill paying, etc. Or maybe you just have different standards."
Ditto. I do the majority of these. Plus I physically take the bills (not all, some of them) so that ends up in my errand running schedule.
"Why would you assume that I am not using my time wisely and need to take a time management class? Thats pretty silly."
Silly for myself, silly for you, silly for many others in the real world, indeed silly!
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