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Why does some people think women at home
| Sat, 06-07-2003 - 1:02am |
should do it all? I hear this and think why should a woman at home do every thing? Shouldn't it be whatever works? Shouldn't it be whatever floats the boat of the married couple? Confused on this thinking.
If you are home do you do it all? How does your DH or SO feel?
WOH do you do it all or do you split it? Do you do more or less since you WOH?
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I avoid working full time because that's what we want, not because I can get away with it. Wow, I'm really just in disbelief here.
Edited 6/14/2003 5:26:50 PM ET by cyndiluwho
Because if that's true, DH and I must be unequal in parenting too, because I put more time in and expend more effort. LOL.
One SAHM with preschool-aged children might be homeschooling them, while still caring for an infant (or two). One SAHM may be shuttling their kids to and from activities (and participating while there). One SAHM might be taking her kids over to their grandparents home so that she (the SAHM) can care for the grandparents for the day. There are MANY different responsibilities that SAHMs can have. They vary with every single family out there. And no, not all SAHMs use their SAHM time to be useful. Some are down-right lazy. However, as far as I've seen in the people I know, that is few and far between.
Also, you might want to note that most daycare workers (talking about the ones in childcare facilities, not home daycares) take care of children all the same age. Therefore the kids are all operating on the same activities. Also, many daycare providers DO utilize television, just as a lot of SAHPs do not utilize television at all during the day.
Okmrsmommy-36, CPmom to DD-16 and DS-14
Because if I did work I'd have a childcare provider to take care of my child, my child only. that would have (or would be) our choice if I chose to WOH.
Now I'd expect that provider to take my child to the library, story time, book store, park, pool, museum, and other various field trips while I was at the office. I'd expect that provider to play with my child and fix breakfast, lunch and snacks or take my child out to eat (I'd pay for the eating/recreation above her time).
This is the set up my friend had for almost 8 years with her second child and 6 years, different provider, with her first (they decided to have their kids spaced far apart as my husband and I did and of course that means childcare one at time, not 2 kids at once). I thought this was the best situation and would have utilized this myself had my husband and I desired that I be a working wife and mom.
So, are these women not working in your eyes?
"not every SAHMs day involves the same things."
Correct and not every day is a cookie cutter of the one before or the next one coming up. Not in this house anyway.
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