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Why does some people think women at home
| Sat, 06-07-2003 - 1:02am |
should do it all? I hear this and think why should a woman at home do every thing? Shouldn't it be whatever works? Shouldn't it be whatever floats the boat of the married couple? Confused on this thinking.
If you are home do you do it all? How does your DH or SO feel?
WOH do you do it all or do you split it? Do you do more or less since you WOH?
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"Part of being in a marriage that is a TRUE partnership IS about give and take, and about the occasional unequal division of work. That doesnt make the RELATIONSHIP unequal."
Exactly, ITA, that is how our marriage is, a TRUE partnership!
Excellent post and sooooooooo true!
I didn't say I go to the pool all day everyday, but yes, we go quite a bit to the pool during the summer months, weather permitting.
He is under stress as w/any high level and management position. But he does love his job. He definately has the stress end of the deal. I don't stress. The work will get done when it gets done but no one is expecting it. His deal is different naturally being on the working end for a boss.
Sorry you can't fathom and understand. Maybe you live in Cindy's world BAWAHAHA
I never once said I was or do doubt people who are sahms (especially being one to two children now myself) or wohm. I have nothing against a woman choosing to work, even if she works just to blow every cent she makes, I say go for it lady, and have a blast while you are at it, enjoy. It is her life, her choice. Why would I care? I don't.
Sure it is easier to be a housewife than a working wife. Never said it wasn't. Again, you are misunderstanding.
Again, you've misunderstood and misread. Becoming a habit, I'd say for you.
My husband isn't coming home and working. He is coming home for family and play time every night. Maybe once a month an hour of housework. Big deal.
You've got nerve to be so rude and condescending about another's life choices that are none of your business, but you did it anyway.
My grandmother was a housewife for many years before ever thinking about motherhood. She was home right from marriage. They had one child and she never worked. Still doesn't. My mother has been a housewife since the day she married until 5 years ago, which was about 8 years after her 2nd and last child left home when he married. I know many housewives. I know housewives who chose or couldn't have children but they never went to work, they still stayed home by choice of them and their husbands.
Is this really odd to you?
In our home my being a housewife is much easier for us and of course naturally for my husband. And now w/children it has gotten even easier for us and naturally my husband. But ease wasn't the only factor or even the top priority factor for my being a housewife and my husband and I making this decision before we even walked down the aisle.
You stated that it was all in the "effort" that a person expends. That it was not monetary support but the effort that one put into supporting the household.
I'm just curious - is *any* working for pay job inherently superior to the SAHM? If the DH is a security guard for instance who sits on a chair and watches a monitor all night, and the wife is a SAHM who does everything else? Is the DH supporting his wife (other than "monetarily" because you said it wasn't about the money)?
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