Why does some people think women at home
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Why does some people think women at home
| Sat, 06-07-2003 - 1:02am |
should do it all? I hear this and think why should a woman at home do every thing? Shouldn't it be whatever works? Shouldn't it be whatever floats the boat of the married couple? Confused on this thinking.
If you are home do you do it all? How does your DH or SO feel?
WOH do you do it all or do you split it? Do you do more or less since you WOH?
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But just because a family decides together to have one person at home to do all those things, because even if she went to work FT she'd still have to do all that stuff, because even if she went to work FT she still wouldn't bring home that much money because our government taxes second incomes beyond all reason, and the cost of daycare can be prohibitive - why does that automatically mean that the husband is "supporting" the wife?
"Whoever is 8 months pregnant wasn't always 8 months pregnant"
True, and thankful for that and thankful it was 8 years apart in two pregnancies. ITA w/ya there.
"but from the sounds of her posts, her husband's requirement of helping with the cooking, dusting, shopping, etc. is an ongoing thing."
There is absolutely NO requirement in this house and is insulting to my husband and I and how we feel and live our lives. We together make all the decisions. There are no expectations, there are no requirements, there are no check lists. We do what we do that is best for us and our family together. I do the majority of everything, especially daily and weekly hosuehold activities. But the deep cleaning doesn't always get done so yes, I'd say about 2hrs per month he throws in and helps me or just does it when I'm doing something else. We don't have a problem with this because it is how we decided together before marriage it would be.
"I don't care if she lives in a 10K neighborhood or a million dollar nieghborhood, any woman with ONE child, IN SCHOOL all day and who does not wah, work part-time, or woh, should be able to do the housework and errands without help from her wohp."
Well I don't live in either type of place, but a nice neighborhood just the same. My child is only gone in school Aug-May (not year round school). Yes, I could get it all done, but my husband prefers for me to do other things (spend time at school with my child, volunteering church/school, pampering myself). His words! Our agreement again before we walked down the aisle.
I guess it is just difficult at best for you to even imagine how others might live totally opposite life styles and do it by choice, huh?
Edited 6/14/2003 10:20:27 PM ET by cyndiluwho
I was joking; sorry if it was a feeble attempt. I'm usually a lot funnier in my head!
If it wasn't you I apologize, but I'm pretty sure it was.
"I'm anal about the presence of our home and the high standards of cleaning. My husband is also, I said we were a match made in heaven as we think exactly alike. I'm so particular if anything is out of place I'd probably not let anyone in the house until it is in its rightful place. I'm too particular at times, I know"
and now you say:
"He would much rather I spend the day at the pool and leave the housework! I'd much rather he golf and leave the housework. "
Which is it, the house has to be spotless or the housework can be left to go "play".
I agree. She thinks we housewives/sahms are definately less. It is so obvious, she can't hide it, shines thru in her postings.
"I think that a sahp can *work* just as hard and contribute (although perhaps not monetarily) just as much to a household. I think that things can be different and still be equal."
Oh my husband and I can see that by reading her posts, it is so obvious!
"Your issues are showing......"
Yes, loud and clear.
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