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Why does some people think women at home
| Sat, 06-07-2003 - 1:02am |
should do it all? I hear this and think why should a woman at home do every thing? Shouldn't it be whatever works? Shouldn't it be whatever floats the boat of the married couple? Confused on this thinking.
If you are home do you do it all? How does your DH or SO feel?
WOH do you do it all or do you split it? Do you do more or less since you WOH?
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Okmrsmommy-36, CPmom to DD-16 and DS-14
Okmrsmommy-36, CPmom to DD-16 and DS-14
My husband is always saying "go to the pool", "go do this", "just sit down and don't worry about it", "honey, it is clean, don't worry, go on and spend the day at the movies". He wants me to do these things, he insists I do them, because after all these years he knows I'd stay home to clean behind the fridge or climb up and do all the ceiling fans instead of doing the fun stuff, instead of doing something for myself.
Like when he is taking DS some place he will say "now you do something for yourself, don't be cleaning, cooking, take the day off".
And I do him the same way. He will say the yard has to be mowed, the bushes need to be pruned and I'll say "no, I made you a tee time, golf clubs are in the car, go have fun".
We pamper each other.
Our house is spotless (people would never know how much I stay out by looking at the house, which is a good thing). I get the daily and weekly chores (as I've said over and over in this debate) accomplished....those things are changing sheets, laundry, dishwasher, dinners, etc. It is the heavy duty cleaning that something gets left over for my husband to help with (moving the sofas to sweep, those darn bookshelves that stay on my nerves because of the dust collectors they are).
Going to school and working FT - you must have a lot of energy. DH was doing that for a while (he works for an engineering company and still has not completed his BA - he has to finish it to earn the engineer title) but he hasn't since our youngest was born. It's alot - good luck.
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