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Why does some people think women at home
| Sat, 06-07-2003 - 1:02am |
should do it all? I hear this and think why should a woman at home do every thing? Shouldn't it be whatever works? Shouldn't it be whatever floats the boat of the married couple? Confused on this thinking.
If you are home do you do it all? How does your DH or SO feel?
WOH do you do it all or do you split it? Do you do more or less since you WOH?
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Okmrsmommy-36, CPmom to DD-16 and DS-14
No, my guests are waiting on the porch, because the house is always presentable. However, if there was one thing out of place, I'd entertain outside until I could get it taken care of before I let them in. It is just how I am.
I sympathize with you also. Does living in California make it any easier? Got to be better than the bluegrass state (although this is home and I can't imagine ever moving and living elsewhere).
And ya know what, if Cindy and Trip have such a problem with others life styles they will have to just deal because it isn't going to change how others choose to live their lives!
MSN I really enjoy your postings, keep it up!
Going to work, even with the level of responsibility I have picked up (unintentionally), is a breeze compared to the work I put in every day raising my kids, taking care of my family, and doing what I did around the house (no, not all of the housework, but enough).
Okmrsmommy-36, CPmom to DD-16 and DS-14
When my husband walks in the door it is family time for us from 6-11pm. Now he does have the yard and flower beds to tend to on the wknd, but those are not undone by me, they are his babies. That is more of a hobby than work for him. It would be a major chore for me.
Most anything I left undone (by myself or my husband's urging to avoid it and go play and have fun) is stuff I can do the next day as far as daily/weekly chores. But the deep cleaning sometimes gets left undone and he will spend 2hrs a month total helping or doing that, no biggie.
My husband never takes out the trash and ours goes out daily. My husband doesn't take the recycables out, I do that, several times every day as I recycle and have a full "curbie" of it overflowing every wk. He does fill the yard waste "curbie" but since he does the yard work that would be natural. I bring the laundry down 2 floors and take it back up 2 floors, everything gets put away so he can open the closet, open the drawer and find it.
I don't iron. I can't iron to suit him (particular!) We agreed on that one early in our relationship LOL
If it was an everyday occurance I could see a big deal. But I'd NEVER do that anyway (I couldn't stand it myself). But occasionally, not a big deal.
And since my husband says I'd be upset if you stayed home to do a and b instead of going to the pool I'm doing what he really wants me to do, so why feel guilty?
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