Why does some people think women at home

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Registered: 05-28-2003
Why does some people think women at home
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Sat, 06-07-2003 - 1:02am
should do it all? I hear this and think why should a woman at home do every thing? Shouldn't it be whatever works? Shouldn't it be whatever floats the boat of the married couple? Confused on this thinking.

If you are home do you do it all? How does your DH or SO feel?

WOH do you do it all or do you split it? Do you do more or less since you WOH?

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Registered: 06-11-2003
Sun, 06-15-2003 - 12:14am
Glad you said it because I stopped by tonight to ask the same question of trip and mrs lou. What gives them the nerve to tell others how they should do their house work, how long it should take them to do it, and what they should and shouldn't be doing otherwise, whether necessary or of entertainment value.

Who do these people think they are with the way they are writing?

I'll do it my way in my house and my way isn't wrong in my house.

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Registered: 06-11-2003
Sun, 06-15-2003 - 12:18am
But she stated her husband would much rather she go to the pool and leave the housework, his words, his thoughts. What is so hard for you to understand how things are different in her house than yours?

It isn't rocket science mrs lou to figure out things are different and things that aren't acceptable in your life are in hers and she and her DH are in agreement. Is that just what you will never understand because it isn't part of your thinking process?

Come on Cindy, what is the real deal with not being able to understand how others live their lives and nothing compares to you, your life, and how you live?

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Registered: 06-11-2003
Sun, 06-15-2003 - 12:21am
So every one is suppose to run things like you? So you are the only one that can say how things are suppose to be for all the rest of us sahms? What gives you the audacity to think such?

Where did SAHWM say her husband spent his days off doing it? She mentioned the tasks outside of regular house chores. She mentioned like 2hrs a month. She mentioned on occasion other things but she did majority. She mentioned they have family time for 5hrs week nights and if there was any work around the house her child was in bed so it didn't mess up family time.

Need glasses?

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Registered: 06-11-2003
Sun, 06-15-2003 - 12:23am
Your wrong. Flat out wrong.
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Registered: 06-11-2003
Sun, 06-15-2003 - 12:24am
But even when your husband feels you should go to the pool and skip the house work Cindy still says no, no, no and can't you just see her shaking her finger in her self-righteous way with a handful of studies and research in the other hand she waiting to cite for you?
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Registered: 06-11-2003
Sun, 06-15-2003 - 12:36am
Ah, but mrs lou says it is unfair even if your husband and you agreed upon it so that must make it unfair because mrs lou says it is unfair. Sorry, you don't get to decide what is fair in your life, mrs lou gets to decide that for all of us.

BullSh*t Cindy!

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Registered: 05-08-2003
Sun, 06-15-2003 - 1:00am
Yes, I can't agree with her that it is unfair when my husband and I have both decided what is fair and isn't for our marriage, our home, our family. Who does Cindy think she is to acutally say "you can do it, but it isn't fair"? Ok, not fair in her opinion but it is fair in our opinion and since we are living it, I'd say it is fair and accurate here.

ITA w/your post, all of it!

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Registered: 05-08-2003
Sun, 06-15-2003 - 1:01am
If I were a WOHM and my husband a SAHD I'd feel the exact same way my husband feels (which is obvious since WE both agreed TOGETHER how to lead our life style).
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 06-15-2003 - 1:02am
Somewhat. It depends on the season. When we get what they call the Santa Ana winds it can get pretty bad. Claritin has helped me so much though. I know my son has inherited my allergies. I was hoping he would get lucky and not get them.
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Registered: 05-08-2003
Sun, 06-15-2003 - 1:02am
I'd never run my life by CLW's advice, never. I've learned much from her postings, enough to make that judgement call immediately. So has my husband. But hey, they have been great entertainment value.

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