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Why does some people think women at home
| Sat, 06-07-2003 - 1:02am |
should do it all? I hear this and think why should a woman at home do every thing? Shouldn't it be whatever works? Shouldn't it be whatever floats the boat of the married couple? Confused on this thinking.
If you are home do you do it all? How does your DH or SO feel?
WOH do you do it all or do you split it? Do you do more or less since you WOH?
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"Now when I need help, I look in the mirror" ~Kanye West~
Actually, most couples choose to have a sahp because they feel its best for their children. Not because someone just doesnt feel like working. I dont know any families where it wasnt a joint decision, made with much forethought and consideration.
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"Now when I need help, I look in the mirror" ~Kanye West~
I don't scrub toilets on my hands and knees by hand, because frankly that's just plain stupid, as well as over kill. I give the toilets in the house a daily swish with disinfectant, a swipe with the same and apaper towel on the outside and they each take less than a couple of minutes to keep bright, shiny and sanitary. Same with the bathrooms sinks. My tub/shower surrround gets similar treatment (although John and my roommate tend to wait until their tub is too disgusting to get in before they think about cleaning it--but I'm not the one bathing in it and I refuse to clean that. MY tub is spotless and shiny from a couple of daily squirts of generic window cleaner and a wipe down with a clean dishtowel.
Heck I even clean 2 birdcages daily and scoop 2 litterboxes morning and night. Granted my house isn't huge like some around here; I'm a mere piker at 1250 sq feet, but the size of my house doesn't mean much wrt how long it takes to clean a toilet that's maintained daily, or the prep time on a homemade scratch dinner every night.
By the same token, I DON'T buy into cyndi's condemnation of all SAHMs as "supported by someone else". Sure that's true FINANCIALLY. But hell, you could have said that about ME when I was getting child support and had a roommate to help take the bill load off my meager income, too. And I was still WOH. There is MUCH MUCH MUCH more to "supporting oneself and one's children" than just the paycheck aspect of it and I believe the above discussed work certainly falls into that category. There's more than enough "support" to go around in terms of what everyone does in a home, including that effort contributed by the kids. Supporting each other is what a family does, whether there are 2 paychecks, 1 paycheck or no paychecks coming into the home. Cyndi's version is nothing more than the IRS view, and that's fine if it works for her. But it seems pretty sad to me because it's clear that her entire esteem and worth within the family depends on the money she makes and nothing more and I feel sorry for ANYONE who's nothing more than an ATM machine to his or her family.
And while I do't have "his/hers" towels labeled as such, we each use a unique towel after our bath--if for no other reason than 1) it's a little inconvenient to use a towel that's already in use and 2) you can't get that dry with a wet towel.
While I think I understand the PHILOSOPHY you're trying to argue here, the fact is, there *are* some things that can logically and reasonably be separated by virtue of his and hers without requiring score cards.
Edited 6/15/2003 11:29:36 AM ET by cyndiluwho
But I buy my expensive razor refills at BJ's Warehouse in bulk and that's pretty economical (for the brand, anyway).
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