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Why does some people think women at home
| Sat, 06-07-2003 - 1:02am |
should do it all? I hear this and think why should a woman at home do every thing? Shouldn't it be whatever works? Shouldn't it be whatever floats the boat of the married couple? Confused on this thinking.
If you are home do you do it all? How does your DH or SO feel?
WOH do you do it all or do you split it? Do you do more or less since you WOH?
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As for cleaning up after your dh, point me to the post where I said you should.
Another thought, don't evenings and weekends count as time spent with children? They certainly do when it comes to working moms! Here you're saying that a f/t woh dad only spends 25% of his time with the kids; is the math different for working moms? Does that mean the kids are in d/c 75% of the time if BOTH woh f/t same hours?
I'm completely agree with this. It is what I wanted to post after reading her post, but then I know she is just going to brush it off, so what's the point?
>>>Another thought, don't evenings and weekends count as time spent with children? They certainly do when it comes to working moms! Here you're saying that a f/t woh dad only spends 25% of his time with the kids; is the math different for working moms? Does that mean the kids are in d/c 75% of the time if BOTH woh f/t same hours?<<<
I think what she means here is that in the complete time spent with the children of a SAHP and a WOHP (complete would equal 100%), the SAHP would spend about 75% with the kids, and the WOHP about 25%. Which is obvious because the SAHP is with the kids all day, whereas the WOHP is not (unless they work from home, but then they would be a WAHP).
You see, Cyndi also contends that parents need equal time with their children. Not just equal earnings...err, is it effort now? Therefore, her time with her children (as a WOHP) is sufficient because her spouse also WOH, but a WOHP with a SAH spouse needs to "make up" time to make it even. But since the SAHP is typically home in the evenings when the WOHP is as well, I guess her goal would be to see a SAHP disappear after the WOHP walked in the door. Completely weird.
Okmrsmommy-36, CPmom to DD-16 and DS-14
Edited 6/15/2003 10:22:15 AM ET by cyndiluwho
Why do you assume that the sahp "insist" on sah? I don't know any sahp's who do so against their spouses' will. It's a choice that they make TOGETHER for the benefit of their families. It's also usually not a permanent arrangement, and it is something that they have done to make life easier for everyone in the family, not just the sahp. Your tit for tat notions of equality are borderline obsessive.
The only way I can see it making a difference is if dad is working lots of overtime or a second job just so mom can sah and it seems that most of us here would agree with you that the mom should get a job in that scenario.
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