Why does some people think women at home

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Registered: 05-28-2003
Why does some people think women at home
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Sat, 06-07-2003 - 1:02am
should do it all? I hear this and think why should a woman at home do every thing? Shouldn't it be whatever works? Shouldn't it be whatever floats the boat of the married couple? Confused on this thinking.

If you are home do you do it all? How does your DH or SO feel?

WOH do you do it all or do you split it? Do you do more or less since you WOH?

IQM

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Registered: 05-08-2003
Mon, 06-16-2003 - 3:13am
BAwhahaha
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 06-16-2003 - 4:54am
I don't live with my mother. My mother lives in the midwest. I live in a condo development in Maryland.

I've never heard of any place where the local government prohibited something like clothes lines by means of zoning; such an action would have required a 2/3 vote in favor by the residents in most municipalities since clotheslines are centuries old staples of laundry and the restrictions against them didn't really start until the late 70s. so unless your entire county was unsettled and unpopulated until such a time, I find it impossible to believe the restriction is a matter of zoning, but rather by means of pre-existing covenants to the purchase agreements made when the newer developments were built.

My condo has such a restriction, but I still hang dry approximately half my laundry; I simply don't hang it outside. I have a second spring-tension rod that I put up in my bathroom, over the tub and hang my clothes there Monday mornings. When I wake up Monday evening for work, everything's dry.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 06-16-2003 - 5:00am
It's also not very plausible. A zoning regulation would have required every resident in the county to vote on the restriction and would likely have required a significant majority in favor, given that such a zoning regulation would have substantially and materially (and adversely) affected rights people purchase when they originally bought their property and governments simply don't have the ability to remove property owner rights in such a way without the approval and agreement of the property owners--not without invoking eminent domain which would have demanded the county purchase every piece of property at fair market value from every owner NOT willing to lose their rights in such a way.

A more plausible explanation is that as new developments were built, the property was sold subject to covenants that restricted clotheslines; it's pretty common in my county, for example. However there are many older communities which still permit clotheslines; they are just vastly outnumbered by newer ones which do not.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-22-2000
Mon, 06-16-2003 - 6:22am
Yep, even there. :-(

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-22-2000
Mon, 06-16-2003 - 6:39am
This is very true. Until recently I lived in an area where the SAHM's (at least the ones I met) seem to have all married immediately out of high school, never worked out of the homes, and have SAH since.

That's part of the reason I felt so badly about myself when I was forced to SAH when my son was little. I had never known anyone who'd had a successful career prior to SAH. I felt like I was being lumped into a category I shouldn't be in, and it took a lot for me to resist the urge to tell everyone that I really was able to hold a job once, honest.

I'd never heard of anyone leaving a career/job to SAH until I came to this board. It never occurred to me that anyone would choose to do so. Since then I've thought that geography probably played a large part. Where I come from people tend to either WOH forever or SAH forever.


iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 06-16-2003 - 7:40am
When I was a SAHM if DH started doing housework that was not done because I literally was no able to get to it then I let him and greatly appreciated it. But if something was not done becuase I was just lazy that day or had spent the day playing then I would stop him from doing it. I never saw a reason for him to do it just because I didn't feel like it that day.
iVillage Member
Registered: 05-13-2003
Mon, 06-16-2003 - 10:54am
I don't understand the purpose of your post here. The topic being discussed is whether people think sahm's should do all the housework, not "look at me I am a sahm with a full-time maid". Obviously, if that's truly the situation, neither you or your husband is doing any housework so your situation has absolutely nothing at all to do with this topic.

I'm really not quite sure how your household staff situation has any bearing at all on the topic at hand, other than you either wanted to be inflammatory, or you were just dying to let everyone know that you had a maid. I noticed you started that useless thread for the sole purpose of calling someone on the carpet, so I won't play your games, find someone else willing to buy your baloney.

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-13-2003
Mon, 06-16-2003 - 10:58am
I'm sorry, but once again I don't have the patience to wade through incoherent sentence structure and run on paragraphs, so I can't make out your drivel. Well, except the sentence where you called me a b*tch.
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Registered: 05-13-2003
Mon, 06-16-2003 - 11:02am
It's a queston of aesthetics. We have strict zoning regulations, for instance, no chainlink fences, etc., and I'm glad of it, our town is beautiful, looks like a picture postcard New England town, hey wait, it is one, often photographed for publication, thanks in no small part to very strict zoning laws.
iVillage Member
Registered: 05-13-2003
Mon, 06-16-2003 - 11:04am
I told you, I know many, many housewives, just none who took that route BEFORE having children. I live in a small town in Fairfield County CT.

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