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Why does some people think women at home
| Sat, 06-07-2003 - 1:02am |
should do it all? I hear this and think why should a woman at home do every thing? Shouldn't it be whatever works? Shouldn't it be whatever floats the boat of the married couple? Confused on this thinking.
If you are home do you do it all? How does your DH or SO feel?
WOH do you do it all or do you split it? Do you do more or less since you WOH?
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Edited 6/16/2003 4:10:46 PM ET by trip59
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I suppose these types of issues arise when houses are so closely packed together that someone's backyard is someone else's side yard, etc. etc., and from that point of view, I can see how perhaps a chain link fence might not "look as nice" as a white picket fence. That being said, I suppose I just don't see a clothesline as unkempt or an eyesore.
I don't have one...but if I wanted one, I'd be darned if a neighbor decided to tell me I couldn't have one because it makes their property look bad. Of course, you can't see our house from the road, let alone the backyard where a clothesline might live...so, I guess its moot.
You're right houwever...if you don't want to abide by the zoning regulations, you shouldn't move into a neighborhood where the regulations don't suit you. There is a family in our area that keeps several trucks/cars/and a collection of other motorized things in their front yard. Of course, I guess I feel like "live & let live"...far be it from me to say what a person may collect. I won't say I'm not glad you can't really see their house/yard from the street either though! ;)
On a daily baisis, a dcp stops being responsible for a child's care when a parent arrives. Its not really optional.
On an ongoing basis, a dcp has no authority over the childs lifestyle - what activities will be persued, what sort of bday parties will be held, what kind of education will be planned, what sort of vacation will happen this year, what kind of pets the child may have.
On a daily basis, a sahp does not stop being responsible for a child's care when a parent arrives.
On an ongoing basis, a sahp has no limit of authority and involvement in all the things mentionned above.
The wohp who arrives a daycare picks up full responsiblity for the child along with the child, most of which responsiblity was never held by the dcp anyway.
The wohp who arrives home to a sahp...needs to take over all those responsiblities from one who has no obligation to give them up and who themselves has full right to parental responsiblity and decisions.
The reason its different for the whop coming home to the sahp, and the wohp coming home to the dcp, is simply because the dcp and the parent play such different roles in a childs life.
The whop with the sahp has the far more difficult job to do in parenting while woh, because the non-income part of parenting is tended to by the sahp alone, most of the time, anyway. The dual wohps with the dcp have it easy. The dcp just isn't a parent.
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