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Why does some people think women at home
| Sat, 06-07-2003 - 1:02am |
should do it all? I hear this and think why should a woman at home do every thing? Shouldn't it be whatever works? Shouldn't it be whatever floats the boat of the married couple? Confused on this thinking.
If you are home do you do it all? How does your DH or SO feel?
WOH do you do it all or do you split it? Do you do more or less since you WOH?
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I fail to see why any of that would change if you had a job. Its not a personality altering experience. If you were to tell me that your husband would never ever want you to, or encourage you to have a job...I think I can imagine why.
Well if his sahm is the kind that spends time recreating as a first priority, and housework is left to be done by himself...then certainly I think the wohp should have as one of his priorities, if he so desires...the hiring of a housekeeper. That would be pretty fair. He needs some time off too to recreate, afterall.
A wohp who "loves" their job rarely loves the whole darn thing, and everything that goes along with it. Its usually an "overall" designation, not an "every little thing" designation. Meaning, the wohp does their share of daily toilet-cleaning-quality-cr*p which they really detest...in order to keep a job that they love overall. And in order to keep the family financed.
So either the sahp likes being one, and does the darn toilets in order to keep the sahp job which the sahp loves, or at least wants, overall. Or the sahp detests being a sahp, in which case, I think that sahp needs to become a wohp.
I'm not uncomfortable with my duties and position within my family. It makes no difference to me whether I "make the money" or do everything BUT make the money. Both are necessary for our family to function and survive.
DH never *wanted* a SAHW. And I don't really consider myself a SAHM or SAHW. I'm the childcare provider. LOL. And I think we all know how important it is to have one of those!! LOL.
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