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Why does some people think women at home
| Sat, 06-07-2003 - 1:02am |
should do it all? I hear this and think why should a woman at home do every thing? Shouldn't it be whatever works? Shouldn't it be whatever floats the boat of the married couple? Confused on this thinking.
If you are home do you do it all? How does your DH or SO feel?
WOH do you do it all or do you split it? Do you do more or less since you WOH?
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How can you make such blanket statements when there are so many factors to consider?
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If I stayed home, he still would not be taking care of me. He would be supporting the household by working but I would be supporting the household by lowering the childcare costs. Also, I would not feel dependent on him. I take care of him alot of the time-making sure he takes his medication, checking in with his doctors and settling insurance problems. I don't think financials make a marriage equal or unequal. There are so many other factors-health, personalities, the health of the children. A mother that stays home with a handicap child is not unequal to her husband. She is providing care for that child-care that would be very hard to find. Same if fathers stay home-they are not dependent on their wifes.
I view marriage as a partnership, as an inter-dependent relationship. I really do not think you can lump all SAHM marriages as unequal. They are providing a service without a paycheck and DH is providing a service with a paycheck. When I stayed home, DH was able to work more overtime. He did not have to leave early to pick up the children and he did not have to take sick days to take care of a runny nose. Now that I work he does all those things.
I prefer working but I never, ever felt dependent on my husband when I stayed home. I worried about our finances. I worried about his health. I worried about our insurance. I worried myself to death which is why I am working now. I did not worry about being dependent on him.
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