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Why does some people think women at home
| Sat, 06-07-2003 - 1:02am |
should do it all? I hear this and think why should a woman at home do every thing? Shouldn't it be whatever works? Shouldn't it be whatever floats the boat of the married couple? Confused on this thinking.
If you are home do you do it all? How does your DH or SO feel?
WOH do you do it all or do you split it? Do you do more or less since you WOH?
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From your posts it seems like your marriage is all about "equal" to the extreme. What if your job was harder than your dh's would he then have to "do more" around the house? Why does everything have to be so equal?
I can say throughout our marriage we've had times where we've worked about the same, where I worked more than him and now where he works more than I do. It doesn't always have to be equal. It just all has to come together to make the family run smoothly....and if you're happy at the end of the day, it's working.
By having someone come in and clean, I can do things with my daughter. He looks at the big picture....Mom does less housework, daughter gets more attention....
Laundry: 5 minutes to load, 5 minutes to transfer to the dryer and 15 minutes to fold times the number of loads you do a week.
30-45 minutes to clean a bathroom top to bottom times the number of times you do it in a week.
etc, etc, etc...
We are not living in my grandmothers day when SAH was a full time job and then some. We don't scrub clothes on wash boards any more and starch and iron everything. We don't walk to market daily to get our fresh goods. We don't have to bake our own bread from scratch. We have no stick pots and pans, no wax floors and permanent press fabrics. We buy canned tomato sauce instead of growing our own tomatoes and canning them ourselves. They took the work out of housework about 40 years ago!! Why do you think that today's WM spends MORE time with her kids than SAHM's did in the 1950's?
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