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Why does some people think women at home
| Sat, 06-07-2003 - 1:02am |
should do it all? I hear this and think why should a woman at home do every thing? Shouldn't it be whatever works? Shouldn't it be whatever floats the boat of the married couple? Confused on this thinking.
If you are home do you do it all? How does your DH or SO feel?
WOH do you do it all or do you split it? Do you do more or less since you WOH?
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I think I would have a very hard time spending any money on myself if I was not bring some of it in. I don't doubt though that others would disagree with me. Heck, I bring in a lot of the money in this house, but still have trouble spending it on *myself*.
I remember as a child, when my mom was a SAHM, that she never had anything of her own, she was always looking for ways to pinch pennies, etc. Things didn't really *equal* out in the house until she started working.
If a woman has a means to make income, an education to fall back on, etc. she definitely has more *power* than a woman who does not (even if the woman with the means doesn't have an income during a period of her life.) The fact remains that in the event of divorce, death, whatever, the woman stands to lose quite a bit of financial freedom, standing, standard of living, etc. That to me is where the inequality of power lies. True power and equality has to mean that the person who is left can continue to live in much the same way. Life is too uncertain.
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My personal view is that if someone thinks that working status is going to change their equality in marriage, they have issues with their own self-worth. My sense of equality and independence has never been challenged by my work status. My dh's view of me has never changed with my work status. In fact, the times he stays home with the kids (there is a 2 week period in the summer where he is primary caretaker, I have a seasonal business with my brothers that takes 12 hrs of my day during that time) he ALWAYS says he is reminded of just how hard it is to do what I do day after day, and how much he respects me for being able to do it.
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