Why does some people think women at home

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Why does some people think women at home
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Sat, 06-07-2003 - 1:02am
should do it all? I hear this and think why should a woman at home do every thing? Shouldn't it be whatever works? Shouldn't it be whatever floats the boat of the married couple? Confused on this thinking.

If you are home do you do it all? How does your DH or SO feel?

WOH do you do it all or do you split it? Do you do more or less since you WOH?

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Tue, 06-17-2003 - 3:38pm
But one having a higher earning potential than the other doesnt mean that the one with the smaller earning potential WOULDNT have the ability to support themselves. Maybe not at the same lifestyle level as the higher earner, but its not always about how much $$ a person makes either. A person can have a perfectly happy and fulfilling life and take care of themselves financially just fine without having an immense earning potential. You are going on the premise that the sahp in the various scenarios wouldnt be able to even find a job. A lot of people earn more than others, that doesnt make those who earn less *unequal*. Thats like saying you consider yourself *better* than the checkout clerk at the grocery, because you have a higher earning potential.

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Registered: 04-02-2003
Tue, 06-17-2003 - 3:39pm
I've been around in a couple of these threads but I find it so HARD to find anything in this new format (I am finding a few features I like of the new format but on the overall I liked the old one better).

The girls are fine. Annikki is getting ready for pre-school in the fall and continues to challenge me everyday. Zariyah is now 19 mos. old and is starting to talk and says such charming phrases as, "Mah-mee, I oopie in me butt-butt." I am going to buy her a potty and see what she does with it.

We are all pretty well. I reclaimed my house from the roommate from hell and we've just been chilling out for the past couple of weeks. My semester at school went well. I got an A and a B which got the academic board off my butt and I upgrade to half-time next semester (God help me!).

It's nice to see all the old faces around here duking it out!

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 06-17-2003 - 3:40pm
>>>Oh no, my baby's a Libra....I need to brush up on Libras....

Does his part Italian ethnicity counterbalance the Libra traits?

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You might have me confused with someone else...DH doesn't have an ounce of Italian in him (me neither...come to think of it!).

We're pretty much even stevens...balance, harmony...

The good thing is we don't frequently argue...we're both fairly easygoing, diplomatic, empathetic...

The bad thing is coming to decisions! :)

Here's a good site I just found on Libra traits:

http://search.cari.com.my/horoscopes/libra.php

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Tue, 06-17-2003 - 3:44pm
Glad to hear things are going so well. My Joey is Zariyah's age (turned 20 months yesterday) and he's pooped a handful of times in the potty! We won't start the potty training for at least 6 months though.

Congrats on the excellent schoolwork - I knew you could do it.

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Tue, 06-17-2003 - 3:45pm
Yep. Describes my parents to a T.

Money *can* mean power...and freedom as well.

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Tue, 06-17-2003 - 3:47pm
No, no, my children are half Italian, and Joey's a Libra. Sorry for the vague "he."

Thanks for the Libra link!

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Tue, 06-17-2003 - 3:49pm
"Needs and wants equally respected"

I think that is a good definition of equal.

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Tue, 06-17-2003 - 3:49pm
I know. It's pathetic. What's also sad about my MIL is that because she couldn't be fulfilled in her career, she poured all of her energy into raising her kids and kind of lived through her kids' successes. I'm not saying that parents shouldn't spend a lot of energy for the kids but for her, it was to the point where she defined herself by them only.
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Tue, 06-17-2003 - 3:49pm
My post was about CLW's claim that my nanny would work harder than I do as a SAHM simply because she is working FOR me. I simply pointed out that a nanny wouldn't necessarily be washing my car, scrubbing my toilets, changing my sheets or picking up the dog poop in the backyard. Nowhere did I say that WOHMs don't do all of that stuff too.

I didn't know what the point of tickmich's post was. So she does all of that stuff AND works....so do a lot of people. And so do people with more kids and more dogs, etc. I work part time so I can do all of that stuff AND have extra time with the kids. That's my main point.

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Tue, 06-17-2003 - 3:50pm
Are you talking about your MIL or my mother?

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